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I doubt he found closure, but I would say that actually voicing those feelings, even in his dream, probably was healthy.
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And, despite Sam's "Oh, no, of course I didn't mean any of that" response afterwards, I think what probably hurt Dean the most is that while Sam was worse under the ghost doctor's influence, it is the type of thing he'd already been saying about Dean being too obedient to their dad. And then, the next day in Scarecrow, Sam's all being the same again, going on about how he doesn't care what dad wants and that Dean shouldn't always listen to John. And then Sam leaves him when they're on a hunt and goes off on his own. Quote:
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However, going against that part of Dean's mind, there's a whole lot of anger against John. The way John died, and especially the "secret" concerning Sam - that really got to Dean. And that's not mentioning all the burdens John put on Dean constantly as he grew up. No wonder Dean has issues with his father. But he still loves his dad, and still wants his father to show up and save him when he's in danger. And he still misses his father. It's a complicated mix of emotions, but I think it's pretty understandable. You can love someone, and still be angry with them. The fact that Dean did stand up for himself, did let out some of his anger about John in the dream - maybe that was a good outlet for some of his feelings? Not closure, necessarily, but still sometimes just getting things out can help. __________________
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In fact I think it was the other way around. I would say that he supressed and sacrificed his dreams and wants and ambitions in order to keep his family together. I would also claim this episode is quite a good example of that. How Dean blows up to the fact that he gave his all to this family and dealt with more than what was his share... And I would assume that would include him having to give up on his dreams and subsitute those with his father's plans. __________________
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^ Yes you're right. Shapeshifter Dean did hint that Dean wanted the life Sam was having and I'm sure Dean didn't dream of being a hunter for the rest of his life and threw away any hopes of becoming anything else in order to be close to his Dad. But I think Dean more than anything just wanted to be normal. To have a normal life, a normal family, a normal home. His dreams were similar to Sam's in that way but more grounded in family. Even his dream about Lisa was about him having a normal family.
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I agree that Dean had just as many dreams as Sam did. But he pushed them aside, buried them and chose not to go after them. Dean's dreams growing up were (when he'd allow himself to think about them) undoubtedly just as much for a "normal" home and life as Sam's were.
But the difference between the two brothers is that while Sam believed he could go after them, and did, Dean didn't. And I suspect for two reasons. One, Dean deep down doesn't believe he can have "normal". He can't trust it anymore - he had his normal life and it was ripped from him. The life he had afterwards, the one where he hunts with his family, that was more real to him. He could trust in his father's abilities to keep them safe, could trust in the skills John taught him and in his own ability to protect his little brother. And Dean had the idea put in his head at such a young age that he had to be the protector for Sam and a helper for his father - that type of thinking is hard to overcome when it's had years and years to set in. While, as messed-up as their life growing-up might be, Sam in some ways had more of a sense of security than Dean did. Because Sam always had Dean there to take care of him and shelter him, so he had the security and foundation to have his dreams and go after them. But it's not all that Dean's a trapped victim, either. He knows that what he does is important, that he helps save families from having to go through the horrors that his own did. Dean does take pride in being a hunter, in "saving people, hunting things". __________________
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While, much as I like John and believe in his love for both his sons, I don't believe he gave Dean quite that sense of unconditional security and support that Dean gave Sam. __________________
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and yeah, I think at some point even John acknowledged that he put too much responsibility on Dean; Dean wasn't given that same leeway or freedom as Sam __________________
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Yeah, John apologized in IMToD for having put so much responsibility on Dean (of course, he then proceeded to drop the whole "save Sam or kill him" thing on Dean in the next breath ).
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I know, it's like John just keeps giving responsibility after another to Dean (whether inadvertedly or not)
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I think John probably realized in IMToD that he was still doing the exact thing he just apologized for, that he was still putting too much pressure on Dean. And he probably hated himself for it.
But he still felt he had to do it. And that's John Winchester right there. These Winchester men can be complicated (and pretty emotionally messed-up). __________________
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