sunnykerr

Do you have T+E network, Leanne? Because it aired today on T+E, and I taped it. Obviously.

I like to keep a couple of "happiness nuggets" in my back pocket for when I need them.

Ron_Beckett

What a way for my depression to act up. I finally weighed myself and I've put on 20 pounds. I saw a picture of myself and I'm disgusted by it.

I'm hitting the gym starting tomorrow. I've never felt grossed out by myself before. I've hated myself and the things I've done by this is a whole new low and it makes me sick!

sunnykerr

You're not a Pomeranian, honey. Do whatever you need to do to feel good about yourself, but don't be too hard on yourself either. Twenty pounds on an adult human being may not inconsequential, but it's not dire either. You deserve nothing but kindness, so start by showing kindness to yourself.

Meliana

^ I totally agree.

I frequently have problems with my self-image too. By all means do what you need to do, but do be kind to yourself and don't try to lose weight too fast. I know someone who did and damaged their liver. By increasing your activity level a bit and reducing portion sizes a bit you can lose weight.

But do remember to love yourself, you're not disgusting just because of 20 pounds of weight.

sunnykerr

My mother struggled with her weight, but mostly her self-esteem as related to her weight, for most of my life. She used to say "I look at a hunk a cheese and I gain weight." Nothing she did made much change... mostly because not everyone is meant to be a stick figure.

Anyway, about 10-12 years ago, she started getting sick, we she had never been before. And, before long, she was on a lot of different medications and sort of started losing track of what she was taking and when. So she essentially destroyed the lining of her stomach, and she basically melted as a result. Now, my mother, who used to be pleasantly plump, looks like a melted candle. And nothing she does brings the weight back.

I spent most of my childhood thinking I was grossly obese because all the women around me were constantly talking about needing to lose weight. Meanwhile, I was so skinny, there are actual school reports (for gym class) that say "she can't afford to lose a single pound."

Just... please, everyone, don't look to your weight as a factor in your happiness. Do what you need to feel good, physically and emotionally. But don't let a number or a silhouette dictate your happiness.

LLamacorn In Training

So I've not posted in here for awhile. I've been *trying* to take my meds when I remember them.. I am supposed to take them twice a day but the dose is too strong. It's 100mg, so for twice a day it's 200mg. I take it once a day at night when I remember. Still, I think I might find alternatives because I don't like taking meds especially for depression they make me feel like a zombie.

There You'll Be

Have you tried different medicines for depression? Some don't make you feel like a zombie. At least for me. They might just affect you that way. I'm sorry they're making life harder for you, rather than better.

I am bipolar 2 (bipolar depressed) and I have to take my medicine for that at bedtime. Still trying to find a depression medicine that works. Might go back to abilify.

That's really true, Sunny.

You have to do what makes you feel good, but not label yourself.

sunnykerr

And trying other medicine is good advice, I think.

Cadenf

THIS!

You can never define yourself by anyone else. We are all unique and we should all be celebrated as such!

There You'll Be

I always hated the way I looked, no matter what, I had terrible self-image.

Now I've learned to be as accepting of myself as I am of people I know, and people I meet. To not judge myself, when I don't judge others.

sunnykerr

I've have and still have in some respects a lot of self-image/self-esteem issues. It's not easy, accepting that it's just not logical for everyone to have the same silhouette.

But that's the reality.

And, look around, people are in love with women of all shapes and sizes. There's a lid for every pot and all that.

So what's important is to feel good inside. Anyway, the physical body we have will change over time, no matter what we do. So better get on board with liking ourselves regardless.

reason to believe

Yeah, if there is one thing for me, I've never been my own enemy to beat myself up on my looks or my body, ever since I was a kid, I'd look in the mirror and think, "yep, i definitely look like a Leanne!" And couldn't imagine looking like anything else cause I thought I just looked like me and if I looked any different I wouldn't be a "Leanne" and anyway, I like my face, smile, nose, and compared to my peers, I'm still rather young looking, and I like my body, to me, it looks pretty good in all areas and I've viewed my body as my friend... and I don't even know why I've never done the usual female thing of being obsessed with my looks or body shape.

The only thing that makes me depressed is my brain that causes the social cues being all off and being misunderstood, bullied or shunned by others. I think I'm ok, just saddened that I don't understand the motives of most humans cause of my own brain and viewing the world. Since all humans are social animals it's an important concept I'm somehow deficit in. D I've learned it doesnt even matter if you try to be nice like you think would work.

There You'll Be

I think that is a really good point-our bodies are always changing, It takes work, sometimes, to like ourselves, but that's what is important-what's inside, and who we are.

Leanne, I don't think you can know about what others motives are. I don't think anyone can. Plus, people change, and then grow, and change some more.

fall into your smile

My OCD and depression are coming hand in hand lately. It's driving me crazy.

Collins

I've been taking my medicine perfectly, and it helps a lot. But.. I was recently hurt by someone who I love very much and so.. I guess things haven't been that good lately.