secretk

secretk

jediwands

Perfect title!

Thanks for the new one!

jediwands

From the current conversation...

Why do you get passive like me in this way?

Don’t want to hurt his feelings or intellectually can’t come up with a direct no to him immediately?

Interesting... I figured you’d easily be able to say no way instead of my way which is delay and passively fumbling.

secretk

No problem! Glad that I managed to do with the title. Those are the hardest for me to come up with .

secretk

Because I freeze in any sort of social situation. I know that social situations are my weakness and I don't feel confident at all. Especially when it comes to interacting with men. If it's work related conversation I focus on work and think only about work and basically forget the gender of the person.

If it is social situation I can't not see that the person is a man. I am terrible at reading cues so I have no idea when someone is joking with me or flirting with me. I can't determine when someone wants to be my friend or something more. And then I don't know how the person would react so I do not know how to answer properly.

Social interactions are my Achilles heel. In typical INTJ fashion I act like a total fool when it comes to this and I have no idea what to do.

jediwands

You always come up with the best titles!

jediwands

Got it! Crystal clear. Makes perfect sense.

Where you are now with the situation? Have you officially said no or still up in the air?

secretk

It's because I usually do not create threads . You are the one that starts them!

secretk

I have not talked to him today, but I kind of/sort of might have plans with my best friend. I was not sure if I wanted to go out today or not. He told me that if I go out he will join me. So I might do something like that and then if K asks I will tell him that I had to do something with my best friend. My best fiend always wins over other guy. Well unless I like the other guy . And even then if it's serious for my best friend, he is the top priority.

I prefer to use some truth to my lies. They come more convincing this way .

jediwands

Well, I usually start threads that don't need to come up with specific titles like Game Threads, OT2, LOL. Ephram/Amy is due soon and I already know which one I'm going with since it's an Irv VO quote. Sports is the one that I've always started since it's birth and I have to come up with a unique title. Other than that, not usually.

jediwands

Makes sense. Good plan.

I do that too when I say no, I like to butter up the excuse with a small truth inserted in there. But then again, everyone knows I am obsessed with sports so when I say I want to stay home and watch a sporting event (or two, three, four, five lol) they know it's a valid reason.

jediwands

I am Charlie Brown and Buddy is Snoopy:

secretk

We manage to make it work with opening the threads and coming up with titles . Plus we could always edit a thread and fix the title . Cool that you have an idea for the Ephram/Amy thread! This is awesome.

secretk

I ended indeed meeting my best friend and another college friend. We met in the mall, we walked a bit, had coffee and then dinner. I did not buy what I wanted (purse for work), but my best friend will order one for me. I liked one from online store, but I had to pay with card and I did not want to do that. He said that he will order it with his card and I will just pay him back cash.

Wow yeah, I do come up with reasons that would make sense for me too . This is the best way.