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My sister and brother-in-law haven't influenced her either. Like, they haven't remotely preached that she cannot drink, etc. Not at all. They've always talked about being responsible, etc. It is Anna and Anna alone who has made her own decisions about drinking and parties. She just has no interest in drinking. She has attended small group parties but anything wild involving heavy drinking and she'll never attend. Quote:
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1. I knew that there is conflict between the jerk and M that started earlier in 2017 2. In series of conversations I have witnessed I sensed that my boss and the jerk do not react well to M's expressing his opinions 3. There was conflict between the boss and M as M left the joined with French team without notifying the boss. Even back then he received threats for firing 4. In a conversation I had with my boss I gave him my brief opinion on M, P and O. I told him that M is overall the best out of the three because he is the quickest, the most decisive one, the one that learns new things the fastest, the one that knows both areas of our project. My boss said something like "that might be true but I still don't want him as he is conflicting person". I don't remember his exact words, but I was left with the impression my boss is totally OK with M leaving the team due to personal reasons and not because of M's technical performance. 5. During M's evaluation they threatened him yet again 3 times with firing. Then the jerk directly accused M of reporting the jerk to his bosses. It was clear that they wanted M to take the blame for the fact that the higher management has started initiative against the jerk. M and I obviously discussed his evaluation on the evening while we were traveling to home. I needed the night to come up with strategy for myself. I saw during the evaluation that M is not afraid to argue with the jerk and even threaten him. M told the jerk that he had not gone to his boss but now he challenges him to go there. He told the jerk that he is unprofessional. Overall I saw that he is ballsy. I realized that I need this. I also knew that technical wise I need his expertise too. So I spent the night planning my strategy. I knew that my evaluation would go two ways: 1. They attack me the way they did with M. In that case I knew that I will call directly the jerk's boss . 2. They act nice with me and try to manipulate me I had to come up with strategy for both scenarios. I also did not know what M would do. Like I said M is ballsy and has no issues with conflict and I had to be sure that he would not go too far. If he had gone there I might not have been able to keep him in the company and like I said I identified that I need him. So the next day I waited for him to appear in the office and told him in the company chat that I need to talk face to face to him. I told him that I apologize for not defending him during his evaluation but I was not sure what would be the correct strategy and I needed some time to decide for myself. He told me that he could defend himself to which I agreed and then told me that it's OK and he was not sure about his strategy either. I told him that in his place I would have told them to bring the jerk's boss and ask him directly if he had complained to him about the jerk or not. He agreed that this is good strategy. Then I told him that I suggest to wait for my evaluation. If they behave the same way to me as him, I will talk to the jerk's boss (who is the Bulgarian CTO) and my German boss and will go directly against the jerk. M knows how tight I am with the German boss so he agreed to wait for my evaluation. After that I told him that I need him to work on my project and I will make sure to isolate him from the jerk and the boss, but I also need him to keep himself in check and consult with me before doing stuff (like say announcing to French that he leaves the team). I asked him if this works for him, he confirmed. Then I told him that I will give him the freedom to decide who he wants to work with and I trust his judgement on how the team members are performing. He told me who he likes to work the most and I told him that he should feel free to discuss the things with said person because I will trust the two of them to carry out some of the burden of leading the team members. And we left it at that. We went back to work. This was a conversation we had in a meeting room where none of our team members would see us. So in the next 90 minutes I had my evaluation and he had the talk with this other co-worker. He had texted me that he had talked to this guy and he is OK with this. I texted him back after my evaluation that we need to have another face to face conversation. I told him what went down. He told me that he knows that I do not get along with this another guy so he will work with him and will act as buffer between me and that guy. I agreed to this proposal. And that was it basically. I was proud of myself because I have never been more direct with my questions and needs to be honest. It's something I need to work on and more. Quote:
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He did not join the team on his own. The boss put him there. M told the boss numerous times that he has issues working with this team and in his mind the boss did nothing to help him. In the end he just told all people in the team in their company chat that he is leaving the team. The French tried to talk to him and he refused any discussion on the matter. He basically said "I am either out of the team or out of the company". Quote:
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I went over by the neighbors' last night to ring in the New Year, but it was strange for me because they were all drunk and I wasn't. Needless to say, I didn't stay very long.
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