I'm back ! Amsterdam was really cool. I do feel like November was slow here, lots of people are busy...
I've read it and I don't agree with the whole of it because I don't feel like Clarke and Lexa relationship was "abusive" in 3A. I do agree on the point that Clarke was not OOC in 3A but rather still under the shock of what happened in season 2. My mains problems with Lexa and Clexa came from season 2.
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Also, it leads to a talk that is about Bellarke:
To which extent was Bellamy cuffing Clarke abusive and to which it was "for a greater good", and is there a difference between his 3x05 actions and Lexas 3x02 choices? (this can be discussed under spoiler tags, if it's allowed)
How do you perceive the cuffing from a moral point of view? We've discussed this a lot under the perspective of Bellamy's reasoning behind it, but, fundamentally, how do you guys perceive it?
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I do see the cuffing as something fundamently wrong when I thing about it wihtout taking into account the circumstances and it does reveal a darker side of Bellamy's personnality : he tends to act according to what
he thinks he needs to do for the people he loves without their consent sometimes. Thanksfully he can be talked out of it because he still listen to them. And I do think that Clarke could have talked him out of it well after a while...because honestly he was not in his right mind at the moment. And that is precisely why it is difficult to judge Bellamy's actions at that moment because he was clearly not in his right mind. I do not think he will have let Pike hurt Clarke, his whole point was just to force Clarke to stay rather to return to Polis (and Lexa). I have honestly a hard time figuring his motives at that point. Did he do it because he thought that Clarke had to stop running away ? To substract her from grounders and Lexa's influence ?
I do thing that the cuffing is something that Clarke and Bellamy should talk about as well.
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A few hours ago I was reading a book and suddenly a passage of it really bothered me. It went on and on about how the character felt so vulnerable without the other character and that she couldn't live without him and yadda yadda. This kind of love sounded beautiful to me when I was a teenager, but now it just sounds plainly sick. And then I wondered, why, then, don't I feel sick at the notion that Clarke couldn't bear to lose Bellamy. It comes down to what we've talked about so many times: they need each other, but they work on their own. Why didn't they work well on their own through season 2 (TonDC) or 3 (Pike, Clarke's absency and numbness), though? Because of fear. They're more vulnerable to their demons when alone. Clarke was numb through 3A because she was to afraid to move. She wanted to escape herself at anyhow. Hey, maybe the reason she took in every word of Bellamy's 3x05 rant then brushed off any resentment right away was because Bellamy aknowledging she was making a mistake made her feel less guilty. Maybe him calling her out on her **** was what she needed and wanted. Maybe she couldn't bare to stay in camp jaha because she couldn't deal with people thanking her for a mass murder. Not just because them being alive reminded her of what she did, but also because of how they would perceive what she's done as something ultimately positive. She couldn't deal with that guilt. Bellamy called her out on her guilt and maybe, ironically, it made her feel better. They have their fears and guilt together or apart, but, when together, they work their **** out just the way they need it to be dealt with. They could live without each other, but it could be a lot harder. Not because of unexplainable passion or out of this world epic love, but because they are the ones who best understand each other and, without that understanding, they are alone. Maybe that's what soulmates are. Two people who truly understand each other like that. It's when you feel at home because that person is next to you and talking to you, because you know you will be understood and that you won't have to be anything other than what you truly are. So as I felt disgusted by unexplainable love that kept the characters from breathing properly at the thought of losing each other, I see the idea of Clarke giving her life for Bellamy as beautiful, because it's not abstract. It's not based on over romantic concepts. It's based on how alone and helpless she would feel without that one person who understands her, that one person that calls her out when she needs it to happen, but that gives her comfort when she needs it, too, isn't that why we love 3x05? Maybe the argument itself is exactly what classifies them as good for each other, and maybe, just maybe, what ultimately proves them soulmates.
So whenever you cringe at the notion that Clarke and Bellamy would depend on each other to work properly or even to exist and question whether or not the scenes could be read as this, remind yourselves of this, of how they would work fine alone were they not under the influence of s2's events still and of how, whenever they do depend on each other, it's because Clarke and Bellamy understand each others fears like no one and are the best people to talk each other through them. Not because they are weak apart, but because they make each other stronger than they already are.
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Ana, this part was beautiful and really moving.
I was supposed to answer to other posts but I'm just feeling too lazy at the moment. So...
April : I just looked at your tumblr and those drawings, I didn't expect them to be
that graphic.
Becks : That is a cool Clexamy drawing.
Lisa : Bellamy's cool hat ?
I'm not the biggest fan of Bellamy's Mount Weather clothes...
