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I find it incredibly unselfish and amazing Andy was willing to keep the affair secret. It shows how much he not only loved Julia, but the love he also had for his children. He knew deep down (had to) if he would have revealed to Ephram very early on his mother cheated on his father, it would have made the tough times between father/son significantly lessen. Andy had to have known (since he's human) if he makes that reveal, it helps with Ephram constantly rejecting him. He didn't care. He was willing to forever keep this a secret even if it meant he would never totally heal his relationship with Ephram. I think that was the most selfless act of love Andy demonstrated. Which is why I will never completely blame Andy for telling Madison not to tell Ephram about the pregnancy. Was it wrong? Yes. Misguided? Yes. Destined to blow up in his face? Yes. But when you take a look at why Andy wanted to go there, it was out of love and protection. He thought it was the right decision. It wasn't, we all know that, but I don't think anyone can say it wasn't (inside his mind and heart) out of love for his son.
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Andy loved Julia SO MUCH, that he was willing to keep her on that pedastal for his children to admire her, even in her death. That shows true loyalty right there. Andy, I want to think, worked so hard and so long hours so he could provide that wonderful, lavish life for his wife and children. For Andy to come to Everwood and offer free health care and meds because he has a healthy NEST EGG?! What type of salary was he making in New York? Must've been double digit millions ten fold. I'm still baffled on how he was able to do that, medicine, even back 15 years ago, wasn't cheap. Quote:
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Honestly, what was he supposed to do? A father finds out his 16 (or 17) year old son got his 21 year old girlfriend pregnant? She ambushed him? Was that her plan? Maybe? Was it her plan to just give the baby up for adoption and for Ephram to never know? Who knows. She was just as scared as anyone would be. Honestly, if she didn't know what to do, Madison should've went to Dr. Abbott. In confidence, he would not have to tell Andy or Ephram. If the baby was healthy, which it was, there would be no reason for Ephram or Andy to ever know. Sure, it would have taken a toll on Dr. Abbott professionally and personally, and eventually we know that Ephram would've found out because he saw Madison in New York. For Ephram to find out that Andy knew and my goodness, orchestrated the deception, I think that hurt worse than anything else in the entire situation. __________________
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Excellent posts Patricia and Michelle. I think it's safe to say that Andy was a millionaire when he left New York and went to Everwood, which is why he could afford to give free medical care to the residents of the town. I also remember that Jake mentioned that Andy had some kind of patent on some medical device that he had invented which still gave him an income. A top neurosurgeon in New York would make serious money, so I think he was pretty much set financially which is why he could do what he did.
I think that Madison went to Andy because he was Ephram's father and she wanted some advice as to what to do about the situation, so in that context, I could understand why she went to him. As much as we all dislike her (and we do! ) she was a scared young woman who found herself with an unwanted pregnancy with her by now ex-boyfriend (emphasis on the boy, which still disgusts me) and she didn't know where to turn, so she turned to Andy, but instead of getting support and understanding from him, he ordered her not to tell Ephram and offered to pay her off to keep her away from him. I always found it ironic that he told her that he wanted Ephram to hold on to his innocence, because that innocence was over with as soon as him and Madison slept together. Still though, I can understand why he wanted to protect Ephram, but by doing so he destroyed all the progress that he made with his son. __________________
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I also wanted to say that I thought that Ephram was horribly unfair to Andy for so long. Yes, Andy was totally focused on his career and he neglected his family to a point before Julia died but if he was such a horrible father, why did Delia adore him so much? People can get caught up in their careers and neglect their families, but Julia didn’t particularly seem to mind raising the kids somewhat on her own, and she contributed to Ephram’s disdain for his father by disparagingly referring to him as “The Great Doctor Brown,” with Ephram, but he also gave them a very good life in a fancy apartment in a exclusive neighborhood in New York when Julia was alive, so it’s not like he was an absentee father or a deadbeat father, he was just a father who put his career first, which he later regretted and he did his best to make it up to his children after Julia died. I used to cringe at some of the things that Ephram would say to his father, and if I ever spoke like that to my father, I would have had my head handed to me.
I was glad that Andy told Ephram about Julia’s affair and that he told him that if he ever accused him of cheating on Julia he wouldn’t be responsible for what he would do to him, because Ephram was beyond horrible to Andy for so long, and he deserved to have Andy tell him that he had gone too far. In some ways though I could understand what Ephram was going through because I grew up in New York City and I was very happy there and I had a lot of friends (we didn’t have a fancy apartment in a fancy neighborhood in Manhattan though, as we lived in a four room apartment in The Bronx and I shared a room with my sisters) but when we moved to New Jersey I was miserable and I blamed my parents for moving me away from my friends and from a neighborhood that I loved, but that neighborhood was changing and we went from living in a small apartment to a nice house, but I did resent my parents for moving us to New Jersey, but in looking back they were trying to give us a better life, and they did give us a better life, but I didn’t see it that way at the time. __________________
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Ephram and Madison's entire relationship had wrong written all over it, and I hated how she treated Ephram and I hated how obsessed he became with her. Their relationship was an illicit disaster and I hate that we were never allowed to be free of her and the repercussions of their relationship. __________________
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