tanaja

I agree, that Logan relationship with Lilly was abusing - and he was a victim. He took his mother's role in relationship.
But after Lilly's murder, he took for a while his father role in his attitude toward Veronica (before they became friends again). In general he was more often a victim than not.
Logan also had other abusive girlfriends (Caitlin Ford, Carrie Bishop), but some other girlfriends were ok (Hanah, Parker and of course Veronica).


In episode 4 we see, that Lilly kisses Logan in front of her parents to piss them off (when they arrive home in the morning with the limo) and he might (?) not look completely comfortable about it. Later when Aaron catches Logan and Veronica kissing (episode 20, season 1), Logan is embarrassed. So Lilly was not considerate of Logan's feelings.