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The guy I'm not talking to/seeing, its weird. At first, I liked him a lot and now I'm finding myself just not caring. He's obviously super shy and i think even shyer than i am. he still texts or calls me almost every day and if we dont talk or text, he ends up texting me first the following day. it seems clear that he likes me, but we've only gone on 3 dates in 3 weeks. i know its not a lot and probably normal, but imo it doesnt give me the chance to like him more. by the time i see him again, it feels like a first date all over again. its stupid and not necessarily what im looking for!
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yeah, that sounds simillar to my situation. the difference is that ive known NIck for like ten years so i already really like him and know that i want to be with him. you have it harder because you are still getting to know the guy and still arent sure if you want to date him, but maybe hes doing the same thing. i think its way too soon for you to be worrying too much about it though, i think just take it slow and try to have fun. in a few months time if things are still going this way, then you can say something.
i mean, its been almost 5 months since me and nick started whatever this is and i still dont know. but i think sometimes that part of it... you just gotta be casual and go with the flow and prove to the guy that you arent needy and gonna go crazy on him, and hopefully hell come around?
for me, he said winter, so i kind of have a deadline... and come january if i ask him i think it will be an easy conversation to have. Im gonna try to just be casual about it and not put too much pressure on him... but i have to. i need to know if we are exclusive... if we are working towards something or if we are just having fun? i mean, in a relationship that kind of thing is important. i dont wanta friend with benefits, i want a real relationship and if he cant give that to me (at least in the near future) then it needs to be done. even though its gonna be super hard to walk away. i dont feel like im being used because i actually enjoy hanging out with him and we do talk everyday and he said hes not seeing anyone else, so to go from that to NOTHING will be hard, but at the same time, if he doesnt want to DATE me in the next year like... OFFICIALLY then what is the point of what we are doing?
hes said numerous times that he wants to be married and have kids so if he doesnt see that future with me AT ALL or not even a potential for that, then why is he wasting him time hanging out with me? I guess the answer to that could be that for now he just doesnt have time for a g/f and im "easy" (in the sense that i am not demanding a relationship) and i am around to talk to ETC, so FOR NOW for him, maybe its just fun and casual. But I cant be with a guy that only sees me that way. especially when i like him SO MUCH MORE than that. If i stick around its just gonna get harder.
but i guess if you're too scared to ask them youll just have to be okay with whatever you guys are? i mean, i was thinking about it today... and i guess we just kinda of have to wait to see what happens. i think eventually they will either break it off or want to be more, but its kind of in their court.