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Linking empathy to trauma is ridiculous, tbh. It's essentially saying you deserve sympathy for someone else's trauma and that makes no sense at all. I don't get why she would want to try and use someone else's trauma when she has her own. There is no such thing as empath trauma, really, it just seems to be a way to make something about yourself when it shouldn't be. It absolutely does invalidate the trauma of others.
Sad that she doesn't seem to have learned from it. I have OCD, so whenever people use it to say they like something being a certain way it annoys me. That's not OCD. I like good grammar too, but I'll only ever correct it if the person in question is claiming to be more educated than experts, and that's more to point out the contradiction.
I think Hilarie's lucky in the sense that she has the option to choose if/when to work based on the morality of the company she'd be working for. A lot of people don't have that. Still, that isn't what determines her attitude.
Not really much opportunity to talk about it because stans just don't like it. People get way too invested in strangers these days. |
I've learned so many new words since I started tutoring again. I work at a community college, so most of my colleagues are below the age of 30.
Oh, one-hundred percent agree it's so bogus. And the way you put it, like she deserves sympathy for someone else's trauma.
OK, this might sound a little crude, but I've always thought it was kind of shady how she made her little cousin's death kind of part of her gun platform, even though she admitted to like not really knowing her. She kept talking about how they meant to go see her. She was nine-years-old, and Sophia was already a big star. So, I'm assuming she had never met her or had only done a couple times.
But, it just seemed kind of suspect to me how all of a sudden her gun control platform was based on her losing a family member. And she always talks about that. She talked about on the podcast how she talked to her cousin, and had to hear her talk about her little girl. And I was just mortified. Unless the cousin wants all this publicity, that's another story, but I mean, I get that you want to speak from a gun owner's perspective. That perspective should be out there. Because the second amendment was not meant to ever be taken as breezily as it is now. But, the family member thing.
It just seemed like Sophia didn't know her, from the interviews, or the way she tweeted out: "She was my second cousin." Not cousin. She distinguished. I mean, maybe I'm from a joint-family system, so I don't distinguish unless asked like is he your second or first cousin. But, I don't know. I'm rambling. I just thought that was weird. And that was really why I had to take a break from her. Not just because she takes these subtle jabs at Chad all the time, and I don't even like Chad. it's just that she does and then she continues to date costars, because of the so-called bubble of a tv set and how it's hard to meet people. But then she always talks about the "bad guy" or the "bad relationship".
And she does this thing where she doesn't like to hear how pretty she is. I'm like, really? You're one of those girls. Everyone can see you are drop-dead gorgeous. Like I get that there is always a false sense we have of ourselves, but I don't know.
But, the thing that made me take a break, is because all throughout twitter, whenever there's a shooting, she'll mention her cousin. She'll mention she lost a family member. Like her cousin's and that little girl's death are her pain. That bogus empathy trauma, again.
Yeah, I used to suffer from severe OCD, and it's more complex than people realize. Thankfully, I'm in remission, but it was crippling, to say the least. It was just, awful. And, Joy tends to do that. Throw serious words out there. I still can't get over when someone hacked into her Facebook to see her sonogram, and she said "This rape of my family." I hate, hate, hate when people use that word outside of the context of what it is or somewhere close, where you are groomed, and violated, and harassed, and manipulated. That is not what that was.
Joy, I've noticed is incredibly tone-deaf. I mean, she's beautiful and kind, and she seems to be really making an effort after George Floyd, which is great. But, there are just some things you don't say. And there are some things if you have said that are so brutally racist, if you jump the other side, you at least acknowledge where you were previously, and not try to speak for everyone.
Yes! The morality of the company. Like Hallmark was one of the main things Hilarie did, but she severed ties with them, because they refused to have more representation in their stories. I mean, Luke MacFarlane, who starred opposite Joy, and opposite so many others. He's a "hunk of Hallmark". He's queer. But, they never have him in a queer pairing. So, I really like that Hilarie does that. She's not just talk. Talk is important. I don't think talk is cheap. I think what you say matters. I just think follow-through is important. Some talk requires follow-through. Hilarie, follows through.
Agreed. After the NXIVM thing, people flooded Allison Mack's page. And I remember this one woman saying: "And to think I named my daughter after you!" This girl I knew in grad school, she was a good friend of mine, until she became so emotionally draining, and honestly she did have that privileged Sophia "trauma", she would get so invested in characters and actors. She has like three walking dead tattoos. They're interpretations. But, yeah, I know close up people who feel attached to actors or characters. She was honestly more attached to Gillian Jacobs and her fantasy of Gwendoline Christie than her actual friendship with me. She was like that liberal woman who is not progressive or progressive in a way that's meaningless. She appropriated my south asian culture multiple times with just having to do yoga and meditation in that westernized way, but eating meat somehow made her sick to her stomach.
Sorry, sidetracked. Point is, it's good to talk to you, because I personally used to know a girl who would get offended like that. And I've encountered and had to block some stans who get too intense.