| HeartOfTheOcean1912 |
07-21-2012 10:44 PM |
Me too :nod: And to what Tine said, about her beliefs on marriage... I actually do happen to believe in marriage, no matter the struggles. Of course, no one tells us that, in a life-long relationship suddenly all problems that might occur with the marriage are solved. I don't know if that makes sense, it's just that marriage and life-long relationships don't make such a big difference to me. Marriage just makes everything official. If Frank and April weren't a married couple, but still were together, and had their babys, but were life-long lovers, then I think that they'd have to face the same difficulties. Marriage doesn't know of personalities, of limits, of dreams... I think that Frank and April didn't know what they really wanted from life, so they just tried to do what they thought was best for them, and that's the huge gap between them. April was sick of her life there, as a stay-at-home wife and mother. Frank, on the other hand, might have hated his job at first, but, later, he suddenly realized that he's not a child anymore, and that he should stop making stupid dreams (because that's what he thought April's dreams to be), so he just thought that it'd be better if he made this sacrifice and kept providing for his family the way he did. If I sympathize with April, I do, for the reason that she's a free sprited woman (PO), and she suddenly finds herself trapped in a marriage and two kids. She said so to Frank herself: "You're just a boy that made me laugh at a party once". I don't know whether or not had she given up being in love with Frank, I think she did, but that was only because she was driven mad. The dream, the plans, the unexpected pregnancy... I don't think she was that strong to deal with these all, so she just lost her mind. And Frank didn't really know what was going on, because he suddenly felt like all the balances that he had brought to his life and family were suddenly beginning to fall apart. I think they're both immature, not meaning that they behave like kids, just because they don't know what they want from life, I highly doubt they even know themselves that well. I believe that a relationship can survive, whether we're talking about marriage or life-long relationships, if only the people in that relationship know themselves well, first, and the person they are with, second. Whether it has something to do with Titanic, on the first look, no, but, on a second point of view, it's the different kinds of relationships, characters, and feelings. Kate and Leo's characters in Titanic are just two young kids, who want to explore life the best they can, and that's why they fall in love. Their characters in RR, on the other hand, are just to people who have fallen in love once, then got engaged and married, just because society back then demanded so (I don't know if you've read the book, April had got pregnant long before she and Frank get married.) I think they'd be happier in a life-long relatioship, because it could be stopped whenever they wanted. But they couldn't get divorced, not because of the kids, but because of society. They had a good name in society and chose to destroy it together. While in the beginning of the movie, their neighbors admire them a lot and want to be their friends, in the end, they just keep talking on how neurotic, how ugly they were in character. To sum up, I do sympathize with both Frank and April, for the reason because they chose to destroy themselves without even knowing it, in a relationship that could have both a beginning and an end. They did the beginning, they couldn't find the end.
(yeah, I've seen the movie too many times :P)
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