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I feel like outside of the palace ended up being safer/cleaner than inside a palace. Quote:
I was largely thinking of a situation where men like Keith Richards, Mick Jagger, Steven Tyler (old rockstars or old and unattractive billionaires) somehow get twenty-something year old girlfriends. Everyone knows they get these young women because of money and I just couldn't do it. If I lived in some universe where any of these rich, old, and not cute men wanted to hook up with me, I'd turn them down no matter what. I can understand dating an age appropriate man who isn't maybe that great looking if he has a great sense of humor and treats his significant other with a lot of respect. __________________
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And don't let me start on bloodletting. You're okay with cutting open a person who needs all their energies to recover from an illness because you think there are tiny parts of their blood none of us can see that need to be "balanced" but it doesn't occur to you that people catch diseases from micro-organisms you can't see? Plua, they believed bad smell was the cause of disease. How could you even tell what was a bad smell from the usual rot? Quote:
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I will never forget how the bedroom where Jane Seymour died is the place where they have their staff meetings. And I totally agree with her when she says the only reason Jane stayed Henry's favourite wife till his death is because she died before he could fall out of love with her. Quote:
And any relationship predicated on one person having all the power... I will forever find creepy and disturbing. Quote:
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If Walls Could Talk and The Art of the English Murder but I keep holding off. Have you read them and should I just bite the bullet and get them? Quote:
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And I don't like a woman being a lot older than a male, either. Like Aaron Taylor-Johnson and his wife Samantha. She groomed him and should be called out on it. Quote:
Somehow good-looking men don't feel like they need to try as hard, sadly. __________________
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It's kinda why people can start to stink as they get older. Our olfactory senses dull a bit and we're used to the way we smell, so... we literally can't smell how bad we stink. Quote:
Honestly, though, the woman could interest me in the history of... I don't know... something I'm really not interested in. I'm just trying to say that I'm the wrong person to ask. As far as I'm concerned, you should always say yes to Lucy Worsley. Quote:
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I'm sure Jane could have done better with that Henry than, say, Anne Boleyn who was no wallflower. But he really wasn't in his right mind at all. Who knows how he might have treated her, even then. Quote:
You can have a certain gap in the ages, but if you were both adults when you first met... I mean, it's not automatically right either. Because, again, who has the power in the relationship? But if you met as consenting, lucid adults... I'd be more willing to accept a bigger gap in age. It's people who met when one of them was a child, have an ongoing relationship of a sort where one is a child and the other is an adult... and then there's a romance. I'm thinking of Celine Dion and her husband or Woody Allen and his former stepdaughter-now-wife. How do you switch from seeing that person as a child to seeing them as a sexual object? I'm comparing two different situations here. By all accounts, Celine was passionately in love with her husband and Woody is a pedophile. But... it does creep me out. And I don't have a ready example of an older woman doing the same. I vaguely know who Aaron Taylor-Johnson is and I don't know his wife at all. I assume you've got it right, but I don't know them enough to talk about my impression of their relationship. Quote:
This is the part where I sometimes feel like I'm an alien. I can see that some people are, objectively speaking, better looking than others. But that has no meaning to me. And I don,t mean to say that I'm "above" any normal human reaction to that human beauty. Just that... OK, an example. I grew up at a time when Brad Pitt became the big hot thing. Johnny Depp was another one. And, like, objectively, I could see that they were good-looking. But it didn't make me appreciate their movies any better or make me want to see them more. I never had fantasies about what I would do if I ever met them... Or whatever normal teenagers do. They were just good-looking actors in the world who did movies that, for the most part, didn't particularly interest me. I did see Legends of the Fall. I thought the younger and older brother were more interesting. And better looking. __________________
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My uncle, his wife, and one of his daughters are heavy smokers. So whenever I go to their house, the smell of smoke is so strong and gross, and I ask myself how can they possibly live in such a smokey house? Do they not notice it? Or I remember years ago a friend of mine was moving house. And the people who lived in it before her REALLY stunk it up. It had to be aired out for days. Again I wondered, did the former owners not smell their own stink? How could they not? Quote:
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Woody should be thrown in jail. And in Woody's case, I don't really know if he wants to separate his stepdaughter/wife being a child + being sexual. Quote:
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I was uncomfortable the whole time I was there and had to use my asthma pump just to get through it. And still my dad would argue with me "they don't smoke inside the house." Have you tried telling their house that? Because I didn't see anyone smoke inside, but it felt like walking into an ashtray. Quote:
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My point is that destroying valuable historical character happens all the time, to everyone, under all kinds of circumstances. Quote:
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So it would be statutory rape for a 40-year-old to have sex with a 17-year-old, but not for a 21-year-old to have sex with a 17-year-old. So the passage from 17 to 18 is less legally important than the gap between the partners. And that lines up with my own beliefs. Maturity in adult relationships is such an intangible thing, though. I totally understand what you're saying. And I agree. I honestly agree. I just don't know how you go about calculating that. Some 22-year-olds have more maturity than some 50-year-olds. Doesn't mean I'd want to see a 22-year-old and a 50-year-old in a relationship. Quote:
I've often said of the actors I find good-looking "you have to see them in motion." Because, for some reason, I find people more attractive when they're talking. Again, probably because of the humour/intelligence/kindness they give off. But they are actors. It is a performance. Even when they're in an interview and being more or less themselves... none of us is 100% ourselves when talking to our doctors or to a prospective employer, are we? It is a performance. We all want to put our best foot forward. And actors are more talented in that department. I'll bring up Will Smith again. I've been charmed by him for decades now. I don't know if the slap was indicative of a recent development in his private life or maybe he's been "hiding" this violence the whole time. My point is that it's been decades where I never would have thought he could do something like that. And that makes you think twice about forming opinions of people you have never met and wouldn't really know even if you did. __________________
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And even if they didn't smoke inside, smoke has a way of seeping through cracks and getting in. Quote:
And there used to be a girl who posted on who would change out her furniture every 5 years. I saw that as a huge waste of money. All she was doing was replacing cheaply made stuff with other cheaply made stuff. Her mind was boggled when I said the youngest furniture I had in my home was 30 years old. Quote:
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Also, I got my asthma from my dad. So I don't understand what's going on with him, but his refusal to acknowledge the stench is some powerful form of denial. Quote:
At the same time, I have owned three pieces of "historical" furniture. One was an uncomfortable wooden rocking chair my mother had used when we were kids. My SIL "comandeered" it when they had their second baby. I wasn't sad to let it go. The second is my coffee table, which is super ordinary, but dates from back when my parents were still together, so it's literally older than I am. And it's solid, and I love it. The third was my bed. When I first had a "bed," it was really just two mattresses on top of each other on the floor. When I was four, we (my brother and I) got real beds. They were the beds my mother and her siblings slept on as kids. It was sort of a twin, but not standard because it was so old. Old but cheap. Long story short, my mother grew up poor. Her father was supposed to be a priest and then, before he ever truly became one, he met my grandmother and the rest his history. So they were poor because he had no professional training and, well, French Canadians back then were mostly poor. Anyway, when they had kids, someone donated beds they had in their summer cottages. Only, back then, summer cottages were really just shacks in the wood somewhere. By the time I got rid of that bed, we realized that the entire frame was warped. You couldn't really see it when it was dressed, but all the supports had warped with age and, well, no wonder I'd had back pain for years. I now have a queen-sized bed from IKEA and I love it. No more back pain. Quote:
If you have two people who are more or less equally mature, want the same things, met as consenting adults, etc. that's all well and good. But if one of them is starting out their life as an adult and the other is nearing retirement... how does that work? How it works is none of my business. I just struggle to understand it. Quote:
Mind you, now that I think about it, there are things that I find quite universal. For instance, I judge people who treat people who have less power than them badly. I don't care how awful a day you're having, it costs you nothing to *not* be snotty to a cashier. __________________
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I really like this HGTV show - Houses with History. They restore old, dilapidated houses and try to keep the historical elements within the house too. IDK if you have a similar show to it in Canada? But I hope it comes back for another season Quote:
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And talk about a short fuse if anything a cashier does/doesn't do is enough to set someone off. __________________
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But it's nice to know there's one couple in my ancestry that truly loved each other. I mean, my parents did, too. At one time. Quote:
I've seen so many HGTV shows just kill the character in older homes, it did my heart good to see one show where they seemed more interested in the history of the house than in making it "magazine ready." Quote:
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Some people, what you see is what you get and the first ten minutes are pretty much all you need. The problem is, it's not written on our foreheads which kind of person we are. So you just never know if the person in front of you is putting on a show or being themselves. That's the challenge. Quote:
And, to get back to celebrities, you know how I said that finding out they're a smoker would be an instant turnoff? So would hearing that they, even just the one time, uttered the words "don't you know who I am?" Sorry, but no. That's the magic spell to make me lose all respect, attraction, interest in a person. __________________
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It's like how lots of people read that Orphan Train book. People read about history that isn't always pushed in their faces. Quote:
I know people love the open floor plan right now. I do wonder how long that trend will keep up and if in 5-10 years everyone will be going on these shows asking for walls to be put up. Quote:
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I am glad none of my crushes have been reported to say that (yet) And I hope they never do. I hope I didn't jinx them. __________________
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I mean, being Canadian and having lived my whole life super close to the U.S. border, I have some issues about U.S. laws on drinking age versus the age you're allowed to drive or join the army. But then I remember that the human brain isn't done forming itself until we're about 25... Quote:
So you could spend your whole life with them and you're never gonna know who they truly are. You could even say that it's not their fault either. It's how they're built. Quote:
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I've never had a bad experience with people on a cruise, though, so I'm not convinced my dad is right. Quote:
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I'm well aware how hypocritical that makes me because I will eat poultry and fish/seafood. But I'm a massive wuss. Quote:
Obviously, I'm well aware that cruising on a ship is worlds away from riding a canoe or kayak... But I do have a water phobia. Anyway, I now find myself obsessively watching cruising YouTubers to try and gather tips and clues should I ever be able to afford cruising as a singleton. As to 10% of people being crazy... I'd say we're all zome kind of crazy. My mother had a French saying that could loosely be translated as "Being crazy doesn't make your a killer" that she'd pull out whenever someone did something eccentric. I'm inclined to agree with that. We all have our qiurks that other people find insane. I'm not too worried about it. Quote:
I can easily believe being famous has allowed celebrities to get rid of a speeding ticket, though. When I was a child, my mother was once stopped for speeding a teeny tiny bit over the limit on a highway. This was mortifying to her because she's the most overcautious driver I have ever known. I was in the car with her. I remember how ashamed she was and she cut off the police's lecture on the dangers of speeding by saying something like "You don't have to tell me. I'm an OR nurse. We get speeding accidents in all the time. I know what can happen." As soon as ahe said that, the police was all "you should have told me sooner, now the ticket's been "rung up" (or whatever), I can't undo it." As in, he would have let her go with a warning had he known that from the get-go. And she's just a nurse. Imagine if he'd stopped, I don't know, Juliar Roberts. You don't need a life story to know who Julia Roberts is. Anyway, my mohter's the type of person who was "happy" to have her ticket since she "deserved it." Make of that what you will. I'm just saying, she's always been big on the importance of taking responsibility for the consequences of one's actions. __________________
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Oh yea, my dad took x-rays / CAT scans for a living and he would get out of tickets by saying he worked in a hospital. It's amazing that if you have the "correct" job, just tell them and you can get out of it. I can see with some people, pulling over a Julia Roberts type, you know someone incredibly famous, would result in a punishment just because the Julia Roberts type is privileged and you want to knock them down a peg. Quote:
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