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sourburst 08-01-2018 04:04 AM

Anxiety Support #5: We're all here to support each other.
 

sourburst 08-01-2018 04:04 AM

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Originally Posted by sunnykerr (Post 94669010)
^ Not quite that bad, no. I mean, I always quadruple check my bank balance before going out to shop and I still feel anxiety when I swipe that card. But never to the point of avoiding the whole thing, though.

Honestly, maybe I'm too passive-aggressive for my own good, Kim, but that would just convince me to keep calling. :lol: What's the worse that can happen? :shrug: Mind you, you know the answer to that question better than I do.

I know what you mean about the quadruple check. I spoke about it with my therapist and she said because I've been dealing with depression from events since I was about 4 or 5 that I've probably been doubting myself that long, my anxiety has had time to take root and stem from there.

There You'll Be 08-01-2018 04:37 AM

Thanks for the new thread. :)

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Originally Posted by sunnykerr (Post 94669010)
^ Not quite that bad, no. I mean, I always quadruple check my bank balance before going out to shop and I still feel anxiety when I swipe that card. But never to the point of avoiding the whole thing, though.

Honestly, maybe I'm too passive-aggressive for my own good, Kim, but that would just convince me to keep calling. :lol: What's the worse that can happen? :shrug: Mind you, you know the answer to that question better than I do.

Sunny, that's actually a fabulous idea. I always write down names, dates, times of calls, so I'd have a really great record, either way. Plus, who knows, I may stumble across someone who actually knows what they're talking about and doing.

Sweet Embrace 08-01-2018 05:52 AM

Hopefully it works itself out Kim, that added stress of worrying about it is not what you need, you already have a lot on your plate :hug:

sourburst 08-01-2018 07:16 AM

You're welcome!

Meliana 08-01-2018 07:38 AM

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Originally Posted by sourburst (Post 94672206)
I know what you mean about the quadruple check. I spoke about it with my therapist and she said because I've been dealing with depression from events since I was about 4 or 5 that I've probably been doubting myself that long, my anxiety has had time to take root and stem from there.

That makes sense. :nod: I hope it gets easier for you. TFTNT! :)

I know you're anxious Kim, but you've done your best in a difficult situation.:hug: I hope it comes right.

sunnykerr 08-01-2018 06:58 PM

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Originally Posted by There You'll Be (Post 94672421)
Sunny, that's actually a fabulous idea. I always write down names, dates, times of calls, so I'd have a really great record, either way. Plus, who knows, I may stumble across someone who actually knows what they're talking about and doing.

Well, precisely, Maybe you'll come across someone who knows what they're doing. And, if anything, you'll start being known around the office and they'll just give you what you want, even though they're not supposed to, just to stop you calling back. :lol:

LLamacorn In Training 08-02-2018 04:24 PM

Really love that gif thank you!

Sweet Embrace 08-02-2018 04:47 PM

Spent most of the night in tears after a fight with my boyfriend. I hate that sometimes my anxiety gets the best of me and I snap, I can't seem to stop myself and I watch myself take it out on him, and even when I know I am doing it, i can't seem to prevent it. It makes him ask himself what he did wrong and how to make it better, and I cannot answer that for him. :(

Meliana 08-03-2018 12:00 AM

I'm sorry your anxiety is causing fights, Theresa. :hug:

At least you realise you're aware of the cause, that's the first step on the road to controlling it. :hug:

When I was first going out with my husband, I had huge problems controlling my anger, I'd never learnt how. I started hitting pillows, and walking away to calm myself down. These days my anger isn't a problem, I guess I did learn how to deal with it in the end. I think being aware I had a problem, was very important though.

Sweet Embrace 08-03-2018 03:14 AM

Thank you. It was over text and by the end of the night I realised I was still hurt and angry by what had happened but it wasn't entirely his fault, so I apologised, and told him I'd be better and he said he was sorry and would be more open.

Hopefully like you I will learn to control them better and not let my emotions get to me.

There You'll Be 08-03-2018 08:58 AM

Emotions are tricky beasts. I'm glad you worked things out, Theresa. :hug:

Claire, I'm also glad you worked through things, and that anger isn't that kind of issue for you now. :hug:

:lmao: Sunny! That made me laugh out loud. It never occurred to me they'd start handling things just to get me to stop calling.

sunnykerr 08-03-2018 06:48 PM

I don't know that it would actually work that way, Kim. But there's a reason people know to be determined, you know. Remember The Shawshank Redemption? Andy Dufresne wrote the governor one letter every day to ask for more books for the prison library. He got a few books and a letter telling him to stop writing.

So he switched to writing two letters a week, and he got a whole newly renovated library out of it.

:shrug:

fall into your smile 08-03-2018 07:18 PM

I'm having a hard time. People are expecting me to go somewhere tomorrow but I don't really want to go. My mom said I didn't have to, but maybe it's my OCD but a part of my mind is like, "if you don't go everyone will be mad at you." I don't know what to do. :pout:

sunnykerr 08-03-2018 07:39 PM

Don't go. :hug:

It's a two-fer. You don't want to and it means you won't have let your anxiety about people's reactions get the best of you.

:shrug: I mean, that's easy enough for me to say, huh? I've been there and done the exact opposite of what I'm recommending you do now.

So it's okay if you do go and it's okay if you don't go. Just decide for yourself why you're going. It's okay if it's to make sure no one is mad at you, too. It's not like, by going for that reason, you're committing some sort of crime either.


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