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P is detail oriented guy so much that he gets lost in figuring out the details. He can't start working on at ask if he does not have the full picture 100 %. He is math PhD and is smart, but he is too much by the book, too much specific, too much about having everything neat, explained, organized and clear. This slows him down a lot. He also for me lack the expertise to lead. He does not have the expertise to size people quick, to decide who is good and who not, to find their strengths and weaknesses. He also can't multi task to save his life. And lastly P does not want to take the responsibility to lead. M is the best out of the three, but he lacks few important skills as well. He is not good in English and at some point I will need this. For now I can compensate for this, but he needs to get better. He needs to explain things better to people. Sometimes he just skips steps and people get confused. And he needs to learn to be more patient with people. Not all have his intelligence. And yes it sucks, but he is exceptionally smart guy. He should accept that not everyone is smart like him. Luckily when I explain this to him he seems to understand it or at least I calm him enough to move on. He is OK to be the leader as long as he does not spend his time in meetings and he is not blocked by decisions made by our boss that he does not understand or support. Quote:
However IMO the problem they have is not because they are Extroverts. The issue they have is that for them leading equals manipulation. They need to spend time with those people to figure out how to manipulate them. Me refusing to participate in those events screw up their plans. Remember the former female co-worker that left the company earlier this year because of the jerk. During her evaluation the jerk had told her that he expected from her to influence me to go to lunch with them. That pretty much tells you how they evaluate people and what kind of agenda they have. Unfortunately for them M screwed up their plans big time. They used to have a big lunch group - like most of the people in the team would go with my boss and the jerk. The jerk pissed off M and M stopped going to lunch with them and basically 5-6 people decided to go with M and not the boss and the jerk. So the big group remained to the boss, the jerk, O and the other guy we travel with. In the next months the jerk had huge fallout with the other guy we travel with so he stopped going to lunch with them too. M and I influenced O (O gets along the most with me and M) and he stopped going to lunch with them. Now O is either with me or M. So M and I screwed up big with their manipulation strategy and this is another reason why they wanted M to leave. __________________
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My mother and I have different ideas of planning for example. She is the type of person to tell me 10 minutes step by step some plan skipping the most important thing - the deadline. I on the other hand do not care about the step or the sequence as I tend to do things my way and I want to have the freedom and independence to decide on my own how I will do them. I care about the deadline. If she tells me be ready by 5 pm I will plan my time accordingly and will be ready by 5 pm. What she does is saying to me I want to leave in 30 minutes. I say I need more than 30 minutes. She is like Why. I am like it's my business why. I need more time. Then she is like but then it would be late so I am like well if you have told me earlier on when you want to leave I would have known. Then she gets pissed and frustrated and I get frustrated at the fact that she gets pissed for no reason at all . Or she wants to go groceries shopping. She decides to tell me what she wants to buy the previous night while I am doing something on the computer (translation I am dealing with something else and can't remember her 20 items list). I tell her to just write down a list of everything she tells me that she wants to buy. Then we go to the groceries shop and she buys everything on the list. Once home she complains that she did not buy something that was not on the list. I am like I do not read minds. How come I could know that you wanted to buy something you did not tell me about and you did not write down? So yeah we had like 4 times issues like that for 10 days. My father is the same way. And things like that drain me a lot. Quote:
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