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Thanks for starting, Steffi. Your title is better than the one I had suggested
Should we change subject or carry on with the kids and Canada stuff? I can say probably I have very strong feelings about this because I was the first to be disappointed that the girls left and believe me, it wasn't about Brian. I really found it sad that they left everything, their family, behind, for an unknown future. __________________
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Hope the title is okay
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When Brian said "Gus stays" she just sighed and was confused, just as everybody else Quote:
Michael's in a different position as Brian is. And the girls know that. I think even Brian knows that. Quote:
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And I think if he really wants to change something, Brian can also use the bus or the plane to see his son. I don't think it's that bad for the kids to live in Toronto instead of Pittsburgh. Quote:
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So if Brian wants to get another chance - as he said - he could come to Canada two weekends every month. No loss for anyone. Quote:
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The winner four years in a row of the disinterested dad award finally decides he cares about his son, so we can't leave? I agree with her here. But then - as I said before - the whole Canada thing was totally rushed and should've been planed better and so there would've been more time to tell anyone and to work things out. Quote:
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And I think Melanie had already dealed with the fact not having any rights during that time, so that - if Brian would've offered her the rights with the condition to be a weekend father - she would've been confused but in the end would've accepted it. Not in the beginning of Season 1 - totally not! But by the time he gave her the rights, she would have. I agree she wouldn't be the biggest fan of that condition, but I think she would have accepted it, since she had to. Quote:
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Here they were running out of shock and fear. But that's not what Brian said. She didn't freak out when he said he wants them to stay. Actually I think if he would've been honest, that he doesn't want to loose Gus and Lindsay, Melanie wouldn't have freaked out. Quote:
In Season 1, yes, totally. But what was about Brian between them in the later seasons. As much as I remember there was nothing, but maybe I forgot. So tell me. They fought in front of the kid, yes, I know that. But I can't remember her badmouthing Brian. Quote:
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So ... there's a gay playboy with an alcohol and drug abusive behavior and thousands of clubbing nights and trick who decides that after 5 years he wants to get parental rights. Maybe if Brian's lucky and gets a gay judge with the same lifestyle. Otherwise, no. Quote:
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It's too late to reply to everything, it wold take me too much time and it's already 1 am. But I'll reply tomorrow. But this one thing I wanted to reply now:
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I think we also have to take into consideration why Brian didn't want to have as much presence in Gus's life such as that he was afraid he turn into his father that was his biggest fear and it is why he wasn't as present in Gus's life as he could've been but Brian was there for his son when he needed to be.
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It's just the meaning behind her words I can understand. As I said, for me Brian's not really a parent. I never said and never will that when he's been asked for help, he's there, always. But he barely asks by himself and to me that's what Mel means. __________________
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I don't think that means he's not a parent though. He's not the best parent, but he still is one. He is interested in his son, he sees him regularly even though not so much, he helps raising him, he cares about him, he plays with him. Those are all things that qualify him as a father and decent one, in my opinion.
About the fact he doesn't ask by himself, I think mostly he doesn't not because he doesn't care or he's not interested, but because he doesn't trust himself to do the right things. He gave Gus to Mel and Lindsay to raise because he thought they would be better parents, that they would protect and love Gus and be good parents as he believe he never could be. I think mostly, he was insecure about how to deal with Gus. Also, I think he respected the girls' roles as parent. But once they asked him his blessing, they gave him a right to say no but then they didn't respect his word. __________________
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See, if we analyze everything Brian's thinking we surely come to the result that he wants to be and could be and loves etc. etc. But this is nothing I ever questioned. I also don't question his feelings toward his son, even though it might sound like it. I don't.
But compared to what a parent/father should be/do... he doesn't win. (No doubt that it could be worse) And then something like this comes up and he starts to critism their way to raise the kid or what they teach him. And that's what freaks Melanie out and this is what I can understand. As I said, I think if he would've talked about his true reasons... I don't think she would have freaked out. __________________
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He is a parent, IMO. He is the biological dad and nothing can change that. Blood is thicker than water. Biological bond is more powerful than adoption, at least if you know who your biological dad is. And like I said before, he wasn't perfect. But he loved Gus and really cared about him. When he said "no", he wasn't only thinking about himself but also Gus. Moving is never easy, at least not for a kid. __________________
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I think what speaks the most is that when we see Gus and Brian interact, we are showed that Gus loves Brian, which means he's not such a bad father.
Anyway, Mel would have freaked out even if Brian had picked another reason for wanting Gus to stay. If it had been for her, I'm sure she wouldn't have even asked his opinion. __________________
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Gus/Brian moments are gold I love the scene where Brian is playing with Gus with choo-choo train in 502(?) and when he's going through with Gus what he'll have to do at B/J rehearsal. The way how Brian is with him.. It's love.
I agree She wouldn't have let Gus stay with Brian, no matter what. __________________
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I don't think Brian even really meant for Gus to stay with him. Everybody knows that would have never been possible, the girls would have never accepted it. It was a way to say they should stay, according to him. But no matter how he would have said, Mel would have never agreed or even understood, I'm really convinced about it.
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Maybe not permanently, but even for some time. I see a slight possibility that he would have been able to take care of Gus for a while. And of course he also wanted Mel and Lindsay to stay in Pitts, he didn't want them to go.
Nothing would have convinced Mel about staying. I think she would have wanted to go even if Lindsay didn't want to. __________________
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I think it's sad M/L took away his chance to be there more for Gus, because with them leaving for Canada just as Brian wanted to be more involved was... idk... like a slap in his face. __________________
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I think where there's a will there's a way so I'm sure even with them moving to Canada, Brian will try to be there for his son as much as possible.
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