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I agree with you 100%. I think in real life this happens as well.

fmaldy24

I think your lover and best friend can be the same person but also they can be seperate people I think like Brian with Michael and Justin

Giotto

I would almost say it is a rare occasion that your childhood best friend will get your lover later.. and normally the role of your best friend will be taken over in some points by your lover if you are going to be in a longterm relationship, but that doesn't mean that you bff has to play a less important roll.. it just changes, and that is how it will be no matter what.. I mean when Michael found Ben and they started to live together and being married, you could see that Brian still was important to him, but I would say the importance in his life changed.. he put Ben first, and that was what Brian did with Justin.. till they broke up or maybe if the problem was related to his youth and his parents. and the moment something happend to the lover ( no matter whoms) the first thing they did was calling the best friend for support and help, and both didn't hestate to be there for each other

daggerrose

I agree. Although Brian was super jealous when Michael started to move on without him, like Michael was leaving him for someone better. And he got even worse when Justin left him.

Giotto

But we know where that fear of loss came from...

fmaldy24

totally agree Daggi

I agree with this too but again I don't think this was Brian - he'd had 5 years of changing and growing and it's like he regressed and went backwards to back where he was 5 years before being just a club boy that didn't want to grow up again.

daggerrose

That's true

Yeah very true. I think that he regressed only because he was afraid. Like despite the changes he mad, there's was still that one part that was holding on. Or maybe he thought he was only good enough to be a club boy.

fmaldy24

I just don't get still after all that Brian had seen and heard from Justin and his friends that he didn't get it - they had given him money when he needed it, they had supported him through him losing his job, they supported him through everything, and Justin was even more for him - he loved him, nursed him back to health, what more did Brian need? That was why I was like why are they going backwards?

daggerrose

I guess it wasn't so easily fixed? No matter how many times he was told or shown, he needed to come to the realization himself and allow himself to have it and tell himself that he deserved it.

fmaldy24

After 4 years you would think something would have sunk in

daggerrose

I know right?

fmaldy24

That's what annoys me 4 years of this would surely have changed something and he wouldn't just be a dance boy anymore

daggerrose

Me too!! Although I maintain that he did change and didn't necessarily regress all the way. He just wasn't an extreme anymore. Or maybe that's what I want to believe.

fmaldy24

It finished with hm in a club dancing on a podium and back in the club where it all started - the only difference was he wasn't taking a guy to the back room

Giotto

yeah, sure it ended there, but Babylon was his, so it was all natural that he was there with his friends and family.. and they all weren't that old that they stopped going out. what me annoyed was that Justin was missing.. he for sure would have done everything to be there too