hfce

Wow he was faithful to no one.

Sandy0401

Nope not at all. Ja is 7 now and Sierra will be 7 in August so they're about a year give or take apart. Stella and Amaya are literally 8 days apart (April 1, 2015 and April 8, 2015) with a brother whose 4months older (Dec 2014). I feel like we belong on Maury or a soap opera . And then half of the moms don't get along but they get along fine with me and I was told by his sister I'm probably the latest tug-of-war toy and I told my mom I am not afraid to pull away if I have too, I'm only there and allowing Amaya there as she has the right to know her family but I refuse to put up with their drama. It sounds bad but I refuse to have Amaya over there while someone's talking about me or her father in front of her and have her questioning me about things she hears, one of the mothers did that in front of Ja and I found it to be so disrespectful, the kid is seven hearing how his mom cheated this and that, just no.

**Anja**

OMG, that looks like some really bad soap opera.. What a mess!
I can imagine you don't want Amaya to hear all those bad things about you or anyone else. She's two, she picks up a lot more than grown-ups think.

Sandy0401

It really does and the sad part is it's real life. The kids who are half Asian her mom doesn't allow them around his other kids. I told my mom Amaya and I have been fine for two years and now life just got beyond complicated.

hfce

Sheesh it is a mess. I feel bad for the kids because they didn't ask for this. It is all one man's fault.

**Anja**

Yeah, that's mostly the case, those poor kids are stuck in the middle, cause their father is a liar and a cheater.. Sorry, Sandy.. You're stuck in it just as much..

hfce

Yup. Kids are always the innocent ones.

Sandy0401

It is sad and from the impression I've gotten the other mothers don't get along at all but I'm there for Amaya not for them. I'm waiting to see if he goes to court today..

**Anja**

How did that go?

Sandy0401

He didn't show...

**Anja**

OMG, that shows he doesn't really care about Amaya at all..Otherwise he would have showed up I think..? As this thing was his idea right?

Sandy0401

Who knows how he feels, honestly it seems he could careless about all of his kids with how he acts and keeps the siblings from each other...I told my mom yesterday it shouldn't be my responsibility to keep bring her to his mom and his other kids that should be his job as the father of all of these kids but he won't do it.

hfce

My advice is forget him and just try to set up play dates with the other moms. Meet where it is convenient to all of you. That way the kids can still see each other and not depend on the absentee dad to do it. Amaya can't go back to be an only when she already has found a bounded with her siblings.

**Anja**

It is his job..! What did your mom say?

Sandy0401

My mom said what Hope said, we can meet here or at a park . Actually my moms trying to see if his mom wants to take her tomorrow while I'm at work so we'll see how that plays out.