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this article is on point
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Going to read it now...
To think about this situation, I THINK, now, maybe in few months or so, rehab SHOULD add a class for family and friends and significant to educate them about how to handle addicts especially when they get out of rehab. I mean addicts lie all the times to protect them and that they are ashamed to admit it, you know, saying I am fine, I am good, I am okay, etc just to make them believe them so they can go outside alone and this happens, you know. I think Lea, I am not blaming her, NOT ONE BIT, but I personally think she was naive and she made a mistake trusting him too much when he probably told her that he was fine to go to Canada all by himself, ALONE, which was the problem. I could say same about Ann but since Lea have been with him more than his mother, so I don't know. Anyways, my point is rehabs should add classes for those people who need to be aware of situations so those horrible tragedies would be prevented. Take it as Lea's mistake to not do that to another person and that person will feel worst when it's not even her/his fault, it just...yeah, it sucks and all the guilt and whatifs would be all on that person's head so not only addict's life would be short but someone who was naive would be affected hard based on mistakes of trusting that person. So I think they should think about adding some classes for that so they can be aware of situations and how to keep an eye on them and how to handle them if they want to go outside by themselves and etc, it's very, very serious situation that should be considered. |
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I KNEW right away that he had those problems because he acted out when things hurt him badly, hence his parents' divorce and his dad walking out on him and his family that led him to act out. So this time, what made him act out by turning to drugs? Yeah, something must be really bad to hurt him that much that he would turn to those. He wouldn't just randomly turn to them for no reason. He had a good reason to feel so worst about himself to turn to those. Poor bb, my heart is so broken for you that you are so broken. But at least you are at peace now. |
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The sad thing about addictions is they take time and patience to get over. Changing one's environment, thoughts, feelings, etc. helps but time is needed. Unfortunately, from reports, it sounds like Cory visited his hometown, so his environment reverted, he met up with old friends, so old thoughts and feelings came back, etc. If you're trying to get over something, it's those triggers that can cause problems, and it seems it was those triggers that blocked Cory's mind from all the hard work he accomplished.
A diet for example - you work hard to loose weight, staying away from certain foods. All of a sudden you find yourself in your favorite restaurant where they serve your favorite dessert. A voice inside your head says, "Just try one bite, one bite won't hurt, you deserve it for all your hard work." Your inhibitions give way and you're suddenly scarfing down the entire thing. Then, feeling like a failure, you just say, "What the heck," and eat something else you know you shouldn't. It's then like starting all over to get back on the diet, and it takes time. |
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At same time, it made me feel really, really bad for Cory. I mean he obviously struggled with that every single day since he got on them when he was only 12 years old and now he was stuck with addiction disease for rest of his life. And what you just said about mind games and such really broke my heart thinking that's exactly how it happened with him everyday when he tried to fight back. And you are right that he shouldn't be alone in Vancouver when it brought back bad memories, like with his past and bad environment which is why I never understood why he went there in first place, especially being alone for A WEEK. That's one question that bugged the hell out of me is why was he there for a week knowing that it's a high risk for him to relapse and seeing old buddies who he wasn't supposed to see or even talk to, urgh. I hate this. I hate that he just had to go there knowing the risks and this time, being alone with nobody to stop him. |
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What's absolutely crazy to me (besides posting those kind of comments), is that quite a few people can't even manage to keep a healthy weight theirselves but do feel like they have a right to comment on someone else's addiction issues. They don't realize that, in a way, battling a drug addiction is like following a diet... only a billion times harder (most of the time). So while many people find it perfectly acceptable when a diet fails (because of reason X, Y and of course also Z), they do think drug addicts should just go to rehab and 'deal with it'. How many diets fail (eventually)? Like 95% right? Let's all evaluate our own shortcomings before we see easy solutions for someone else's. |
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people are so judgmental nowadays anyway they don't understand, don't even try to understand and just criticize
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YES YES YES! Everyone has their personal demons. It doesn't mean they weren't a good person or anything like that. Some people just find it harder to deal with then others.
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A quote from Eileen Brennan, an actress who died on July 28 at the age of 80: "We get addicted to dull the pain of life," she told the magazine. "But once we accept that life is tough and painful, we can move on and grow and evolve." That speaks so much about dealing with addiction. |
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I've watched a lot of movies and documentaries on addiction the past couple days and it's crazy. It's like a billion times harder to keep sober than to keep a strict diet (and that's hard too). The withdrawals and everything, especially for something as hard as heroin. It's really hard. Makes people go crazy.
Rehab isn't everything. Rehab is to detox you which is a painful process too. Like what happens after is what's important. You need to get a lot of love and support, you need to not be left alone for 3 months at minimum, you need to see counsellors and therapists, and go to AA meetings and everything. There's a lot of after care that needed to be done. Unfortunately most people surrounding him and even us are only educated about this after this tragedy. I definitely feel people around him, the closest people, should have been more educated about this and not left him alone rather than give him threats and ultimatums and not let him work or whatever. Cory was probably extremely worried on Friday night after he went out with friends and broke his sobriety. I don't think he drank or did the heroin until he got to his hotel at 2 am. The other one came first with his friends, whether it was drinking or doing heroin together. Because he couldn't have done both out otherwise he'd have died in the clubs. It's the mix of alcohol and the drug that killed him. It wasn't an overdose. I'm 100% positive that Cory knew that mixing the two would be lethal. He's been to rehab. He's very educated on addiction issues. He's not dumb. Now he might have been too drunk and vulnerable to care or he might have intentionally done that because he felt so vulnerable and worried when he broke his sobriety again. Worried what will happen to him when he came home. Him and Lea were gunna move in together officially but she said she won't live with an addict and gave him an ultimatum. He was probably worried about losing her. He was going to go back on Glee but we know from Ryan's interview how worried he was of losing his job and he was probably worried again cuz he'd have to go to rehab for 3 months. Less shooting for Finn. He was probably worried about his public image. He must have been worried and vulnerable about EVERYTHING at that point. So I don't blame him one bit for turning to alcohol/drugs then and even taking his own life away intentionally if that happened. I have a hard time believing it was an accident because he's not dumb and he knows this stuff. And I feel people just say that not to taint his image more but also to not feel responsible. Hollywood, FOX, his parents, everyone would be questioned if it was said it was suicide. So I think that's more saving grace for them. |
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