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Old 03-22-2018, 03:26 PM
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Uh oh, I thought you lived with your boyfriend? Or are you now referring him as your roommate now? he must be in the dog house!
No, he has a roommate who I don't call my roommate now. He complains about Hellmart, says he isn't going buy anything from there except to go to the pharmacy, yet shops there. I don't want to him to shop there. My boyfriend and I discussed once I get a job and make enough money to pay the rent and half of the mortgage, that this man is going to go.

My boyfriend can't afford living without roommates, so no. I wish he could, but he has bills he has to pay off. I am thinking about looking for different roommates who can live up to my standards because I feel like I do the majority of the cleaning, and clean the right way. Like when this roommate does the dishes, he doesn't wipe the counters off as good, sweep very good, and mop very good. He just puts the dishes in the dishwasher most of the time. He doesn't put the coffeepot he uses along with the filter in the dishwasher that often. As for the living room, when he vacuums, he only does it in the easy areas and doesn't take the hose off to maneuver it on the sides. I move more stuff when I vacuum. He doesn't dust the living room. I'm the only one who does it. My boyfriend doesn't participate in the cleaning all that much either, but when he does it, it's not my style. So, when the roommate decided to threaten to throw away the dishes that he doesn't own because he refused to put them in the dishwasher, I got pissed. When I had a job and helped pay for the utilities, he picked on me because I didn't pay the rent at the time. I am paying the rent now. My boyfriend did explain that to him when he started to pick on me about the dishes again. Two days after that was explained to him, he made the threat of throwing away someone's personal property. It makes me wonder if I started a new job in the past weeks, if he would harass me. This roommate is on social security, so he hasn't had a job in years, and he has to harass a girl who is capable of working and pays rent? On the times I've been staying at this house, I was the only one who dusted, made things look neater, cleaned out the microwave, and cleaned out the inside refrigerator. So, I need a roommate that can help me on these things, so I can have a break. He complained that the kitchen looked sad, but he leaves garbage on the kitchen counter.

Another thing is that I'm up at night because my partner works nights, so I try to be as quiet as I can when this roommate is asleep. If I did my business every night, he would be complaining about that. I know this because he had complained 2 or 3 times in the past for being too loud. This roommate is up during the day. At night I tend to not like to be up and going because of the darkness that is outside. The human body is programmed to be up during the daytime and sleep during the nighttime.
When I lost my job, I was in a deep depression, which meant that my motivation wasn't all there. I like to clean, yet need the motivation. Hellmart did make me depressed, so they did me a favor by getting rid of me, even though it wasn't fair at all. The place just wasn't good for me. My hard work was disrespected and unappreciated.

He buys Hellmart. groceries and household items. He then complains and says he isn't going back to the place except for the pharmacy. He knows that I hate the place. I threw his milk out, and bought him two more milks. I did confront him about the milk before, and bought him three milks and half and halves, two of them are still out in the outside fridge. So basically, he wasted my money. The half and hallves are still out in the outside refrigerator.

I already talked to him about getting a roommate that lives up to my standards (because this one obviously isn't living up to mine). I'm not comfortable with this roommate now considering he threatened to throw away my boyfriend's personal property.
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is being a brat.
COuld you please read my post?
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No, he has a roommate who I don't call my roommate now. He complains about Hellmart, says he isn't going buy anything from there except to go to the pharmacy, yet shops there. I don't want to him to shop there. My boyfriend and I discussed once I get a job and make enough money to pay the rent and half of the mortgage, that this man is going to go.
Oh wow, Mary I mean that sucks that you don't like the thought of your roommate going to Wal- I mean Hell-Mart but I just gotta be honest, you definitely should cut him a break. People are going to shop there regardless (and yes, I am among those who do still shop there but I'll be honest I haven't been in quite some time.)

I am more of a Target girl but my mom? She actually doesn't like Target, and my older sister used to go shopping at stores I loathed back in the day, but I never would hold it against her when she would go! I would just get annoyed if I had to go inside too because that meant I was being subjected to it you know what I'm saying?

I don't know anything about this roommate of yours, but I hope him shopping at a store you hate isn't the reason you're giving him the boot because I mean...you're controlling another human being that doesn't have to hate what you hate and love what you love. Imagine if your boyfriend decided he didn't want you shopping at Victoria's Secret or a favorite store of yours? That would send up serious red flags. I hope you get where I'm coming from

As for the cleaning situation, I know from our conversations on FB that it is an ongoing issue with you and your boyfriend. It really sucks when you feel like you're doing most or all of the cleaning up and I'm sorry to hear that you've been given a rough time. I've had serious relationships, but I've never lived with anyone so I can't speak to that but I would say that if I were you,

I would try to get together with your boyfriend and discuss a solution and both of you need to meet each other in the middle on this. If you go in and start nagging at him saying it has to be cleaned to your exact standards, etc, then your boyfriend will probably either tune you out or feel unheard. Usually in any agreements in life, both parties are a little unhappy and I think that's just life. I feel like I've told you this a thousand times and I don't mean to annoy you, but I think you and your boyfriend are very lucky to have the problems that you are having, because my last relationship ended in terrible infidelity and I just don't want to see you lose your guy over cleaning when there are so many women out there in constant worry about their partners cheating on them. And relationships who are having children, but can't agree on what religion to raise them into, etc.

I think you may also just need to get some girlfriends or hang out with family to get you out of the whole insanity of the cleaning. Sometimes it's ok to just take a step back and be like "Ok, he's not cleaning this or that. I'm just gonna get out of the house and go shopping" and just get out of your own head and cool down. Give yourself a day of you, go to the spa, do something relaxing for you. Don't let him stress you out love!
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Erin, being controlling is a part of my personality. It isn't entirely my fault considering how I was brought up.


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Oh wow, Mary I mean that sucks that you don't like the thought of your roommate going to Wal- I mean Hell-Mart but I just gotta be honest, you definitely should cut him a break. People are going to shop there regardless (and yes, I am among those who do still shop there but I'll be honest I haven't been in quite some time.)
I am beyond cutting him some slack because he shouldn't be a jerk to the guy of the household's girlfriend. Him keeping on nagging me to do the dishes all the time when he hardly does the amount that I do to the housework. Also, if you pay into mortgages, irrigation, or the HOA, and one of your roommmates don't follow your rules, you have the right to kick them out. If a roommate doesn't like the rules, then they should move out. It is my rule to not shop at HellMart, not steal, break in, have questionable people over for the night, drugs, treat me or my boyfriend like crap, help me with the house the way I want the person to, and not have loud music on when I'm asleep. So your remark saying that people are going to shop there regardless is pretty much useless to this point. People have rules that people need to follow, so you are saying you would move into my house and disregard my rules(making me feel/thing less of you).

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I am more of a Target girl but my mom? She actually doesn't like Target, and my older sister used to go shopping at stores I loathed back in the day, but I never would hold it against her when she would go! I would just get annoyed if I had to go inside too because that meant I was being subjected to it you know what I'm saying?
One of these days I'm going to have a long talk to my family about this because they would be shopping at a store that drove me off of the wall. If you are more of a Target girl, you should stick to Target.

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I don't know anything about this roommate of yours, but I hope him shopping at a store you hate isn't the reason you're giving him the boot because I mean...you're controlling another human being that doesn't have to hate what you hate and love what you love. Imagine if your boyfriend decided he didn't want you shopping at Victoria's Secret or a favorite store of yours? That would send up serious red flags. I hope you get where I'm coming from
I never complain about the stuff I get from Victoria's Secret because the quality is good and I enjoy the stuff I get from the store, this roommate, however, complains about **** he gets from HellMart and still continues to shop there. He doesn't make sense, and I'm thinking that he lacks common sense.

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As for the cleaning situation, I know from our conversations on FB that it is an ongoing issue with you and your boyfriend. It really sucks when you feel like you're doing most or all of the cleaning up and I'm sorry to hear that you've been given a rough time. I've had serious relationships, but I've never lived with anyone so I can't speak to that but I would say that if I were you.
Uhm, as I've said before, when you are renting a room somewhere, there are some rules that you need to follow, or you could get evicted. I want someone who has OCD to help me in ways that are to my standards. Also, if a roommate would threaten to throw away my dishes, I would get pissed and kick them out. My sister wanted me held to her standard of cleaning when I lived with her.

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I would try to get together with your boyfriend and discuss a solution and both of you need to meet each other in the middle on this. If you go in and start nagging at him saying it has to be cleaned to your exact standards, etc, then your boyfriend will probably either tune you out or feel unheard. Usually in any agreements in life, both parties are a little unhappy and I think that's just life. I feel like I've told you this a thousand times and I don't mean to annoy you, but I think you and your boyfriend are very lucky to have the problems that you are having, because my last relationship ended in terrible infidelity and I just don't want to see you lose your guy over cleaning when there are so many women out there in constant worry about their partners cheating on them. And relationships who are having children, but can't agree on what religion to raise them into, etc.
I am a little unhappy with my BF because I have the maximum of 3 months to look for a job to help pay with some things, so he can kick his roommate out. So, I'm desperate to look for a job now that has a high pay from $12.00(the least) - $18.00(the maximum). But then I asked my BF if I can just pay him what he needs on my 2nd paycheck considering that my second paychecks are going to go to him. By this I'm not doing the dishes at all when the roommate is here.

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I think you may also just need to get some girlfriends or hang out with family to get you out of the whole insanity of the cleaning. Sometimes it's ok to just take a step back and be like "Ok, he's not cleaning this or that. I'm just gonna get out of the house and go shopping" and just get out of your own head and cool down. Give yourself a day of you, go to the spa, do something relaxing for you. Don't let him stress you out love!
I've done this already.
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Not trying to start anything, but this is a trigger for my own OCD.... OCD has very little to do with cleaning... unless it comes with the thought of, "clean this, or something bad like my family will die or something because I didn't clean it right," accompanies it. So even if you ever got a true OCD roommate, it wouldn't be anything about being clean because cleaning is not for the right reasons. As someone with OCD myself, I would never wish OCD on even my worst enemy because it controls your life and not in a good way. Unless you mean a germophobe because a germophobe would definitely help with cleaning and such, still for not necessarily the reason most people clean, but would still get the cleaning job done. OCD is about compulsions to make the sufferer not fear something bad happening. If only it were as easy as meaning being very cleanly.
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Not trying to start anything, but this is a trigger for my own OCD.... OCD has very little to do with cleaning... unless it comes with the thought of, "clean this, or something bad like my family will die or something because I didn't clean it right," accompanies it. So even if you ever got a true OCD roommate, it wouldn't be anything about being clean. Unless you mean a germophobe. OCD is about compulsions to make the sufferer not fear something bad happening. If only it were as easy as meaning being very cleanly.
And OCD is a mental disorder. I am a germaphobe. I get on my guy for not changing his gloves when he hauls out the outside garbage after each garbage. I just need someone who is up on my standards. My sister has OCD and she wants things done a certain way, and I have met those standards.

I even get OCD when it comes to Fan forum. I try to post in the game threads first, and then do other topics after them.

Also, I've spent time posting on the Friends board by posting gifs on most of the threads there.
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