Patrick Dempsey - Ferryboats (Derek & Meredith) #31: Because she build him a house of candles! - Page 4

**shinystar** · 06-10-2008, 10:49 AM

link doesn't work, but that's probably because there's a bad word in the link, could you PM it to me Tamika?!

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I believe those are some post break-up pics spliced together from 4.11 "Lay Your Hands On Me". Very nice Lizze!

thnx for explaining Andrea

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I agree, if they want a future at all they have to heal old wounds and move on. They can't keep rehashing them if they are supposed to be over and done with. They just need to have a huge TALK and get it all out in the open how they are feeling. They should have done that in S3 and sadly I feel like it may not happen now.

They both definitely love each other and want to move forward together. Derek is just as scared as Meredith IMO. Just like Derek has trust issues still with Meredith since they've never spoken about the NDE. Another thing we need them to talk about.

I've always thought so many things could be worked out if only the writers allowed them to communicate!

They do need to talk, but I think case in point as well. Guys are not communicative. They can say perfect words, say the best things, but still talking about things are not guys' thing..
I've always said I wanted them to talk, and I do, but its not a guys' thing..

Pebbles_xx · 06-10-2008, 07:12 PM

Yeah guys are good at saying the right things at the right opportune time.

StuffofLegendsMD80 · 06-10-2008, 09:44 PM

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Power Couple

Eric and Tami Taylor (Kyle Chandler and Connie Britton) of “Friday Night Lights”

The king and queen of Dillon, Texas, are committed to Family, Football and missing whatever's on TV on Friday. It's a small empire, but it's all theirs.

Runners-up: Dr. Meredith Grey and Dr. Derek Shepherd (Ellen Pompeo and Patrick Dempsey) of “Grey's Anatomy.” Now that Addison has been safely spun-off, their relationship should be less complicated and more exciting, right? Right?

Awarding honors in a television yearbook - Television - MSNBC.com

**tonka17** · 06-11-2008, 02:22 AM

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Awarding honors in a television yearbook - Television - MSNBC.com

They should be first, lol

**shinystar** · 06-11-2008, 11:31 AM

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Yeah guys are good at saying the right things at the right opportune time.

If you think about it, Derek is portrayed as a lot of men are.. They all have trouble communicating, opening themselves up.

Pebbles_xx · 06-11-2008, 04:01 PM

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If you think about it, Derek is portrayed as a lot of men are.. They all have trouble communicating, opening themselves up.

Yes.

Aww they should have been number one! This topic goes by slower than the oens in the GA forum. I like this one better!

StuffofLegendsMD80 · 06-11-2008, 06:02 PM

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They should be first, lol

Yes, they should be! They are on my list.

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If you think about it, Derek is portrayed as a lot of men are.. They all have trouble communicating, opening themselves up.

That is true that many men just aren't able to open up and communicate. Men are just so proudful most of the time they can't open up.

Still though, in Derek's case he let Mer's NDE eat at him. If it bothered him that she "let go" in that water I was hoping he'd talk about it with Mer.

Same with the S&M, if it wasn't enough for him he should have said something.

Mer has this same problem about the opening up and I'm hoping that's one of the things we see in S5!

**shinystar** · 06-12-2008, 11:06 AM

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This topic goes by slower than the oens in the GA forum. I like this one better!

Well the forum in general is slower because the focus is 1 person, show boards usually go faster because there's more to focus on

But I don't think we're doing that bad with this thread, seeing how we're on #31

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That is true that many men just aren't able to open up and communicate. Men are just so proudful most of the time they can't open up.

I think its just something very gender specific. Men like things to be simple, well so do women, but women throw in feelings and thoughts, and I don't think men tend to do that.

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Still though, in Derek's case he let Mer's NDE eat at him. If it bothered him that she "let go" in that water I was hoping he'd talk about it with Mer.

Same with the S&M, if it wasn't enough for him he should have said something.

It did bother him, but I think even situations when there are things that bother him, they tend to move away from the subject. Or run away from it. Perhaps hoping that it makes things easier.

StuffofLegendsMD80 · 06-12-2008, 06:31 PM

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Well the forum in general is slower because the focus is 1 person, show boards usually go faster because there's more to focus on

But I don't think we're doing that bad with this thread, seeing how we're on #31

Yep, I think we're doing pretty good here too!

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I think its just something very gender specific. Men like things to be simple, well so do women, but women throw in feelings and thoughts, and I don't think men tend to do that.

Yeah, it's very gender specific I feel as well. It's been my experience with men. Their pride gets in the way and they are too stubborn to talk about how they are feeling if they are hurt or upset. Instead they either lash out or just run away, much like little boys, LOL!

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It did bother him, but I think even situations when there are things that bother him, they tend to move away from the subject. Or run away from it. Perhaps hoping that it makes things easier.

I totally think Derek never brought up Mer giving up in the water because he just didn't want her to think about it. He was scared that if he brought it up that it would upset her and she'd think again about all those things that made her want to give up in the first place. So, he went from hovering and watching her breath to being scared to talk to her and not taking her phone calls.

I always thought Derek going through a PTSD due to Mer's NDE and not being able to discuss it with her would have been a great story!

**shinystar** · 06-13-2008, 10:22 AM

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Yeah, it's very gender specific I feel as well. It's been my experience with men. Their pride gets in the way and they are too stubborn to talk about how they are feeling if they are hurt or upset. Instead they either lash out or just run away, much like little boys, LOL!

It is that way pretty much. In general men are the ones often fleeding. I think women are more forthcoming in fighting or figuring things out together, as men back away..

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I totally think Derek never brought up Mer giving up in the water because he just didn't want her to think about it. He was scared that if he brought it up that it would upset her and she'd think again about all those things that made her want to give up in the first place. So, he went from hovering and watching her breath to being scared to talk to her and not taking her phone calls.

Perhaps afraid that she might do it again?

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I always thought Derek going through a PTSD due to Mer's NDE and not being able to discuss it with her would have been a great story!

That would have made for a great storyline.. Never thought of that honestly

**tonka17** · 06-13-2008, 11:09 PM

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I always thought Derek going through a PTSD due to Mer's NDE and not being able to discuss it with her would have been a great story!

I would so have loved that and maybe they could still kinda go down this route?? It kinda depends i think?? Do you still think they could do that??

Serena Grey-Mars · 06-14-2008, 07:24 AM

I can't believe there was a Ferryboats that didn't reach 300 posts!

But than again; this is not the GA forum....

Anyways, hi hi.

**shinystar** · 06-14-2008, 08:39 AM

we always reach 300 posts, but then a new thread is opened

Hi Serena Grey-Mars

Good to have you here

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I would so have loved that and maybe they could still kinda go down this route?? It kinda depends i think?? Do you still think they could do that??

It could still be done I suppose, but it might be too late, since for the viewer its been a while since that happened. I'm not sure if it would be that believable, despite the timeline.

Pebbles_xx · 06-14-2008, 12:02 PM

Hey everyone!!!!!

**shinystar** · 06-14-2008, 01:23 PM

Hey Lizzie

I miss Grey's.