[~Unfaithful~]

Marriage is a scary topic, but it's ok once you get over it

[Jaymez_NY]

haven't gotten to the scary parts yet, I guess

[~*Yuki*~]

Originally Posted by Rainstorm18 (View Post) Oh sweetie, what happened?

Oh nothing. I'm just scared, I guess. It's like, what if things don't work out? It's MARRIAGE. You can't just get out of it. I don't know.. I've been scared about marriage ever since I was young. I wasn't the one who talked about it all the time. All the girls talked about it except me, but then now I'm the one going ahead. I never even thought I'd get married and have kids at 22. I guess everything is just happening all at once and it's too overwhelming for me. I'll get over it soon, though. Especially right after it happens. People have their own fears. Mine is getting married, believe it or not. And I'm supposed to be a hopeless romantic.

[mad lil' duck]

I think it's rather normal to be scared of marriage...

If I'm not mistaken, over here in my city, the number of divorces last year was higher than the number of marriages...And a couple of the divorces were with couples who were about to reach anniversaries, 10 years, 20 years, even one couple wanted a divorce after 50 years One just wonders what took them so long to discover it wasn't meant to be...

At the moment I'm scared of actually getting into a new relationship...I keep putting it on hold But I think once I'm in one, I won't be the marriage-type either...Although I wouldn't mind just buying the white dress (with red touches...I'm not going hypocrite on my "pretend wedding day" ) And if the bloke just puts a ring on my finger it's ok...
I would maybe consider marrying him after about 10-15 years...If you get that far and live together and have children, without mayor problems, then I would make it "official"...But then again, if he just pops the question sooner...I'd cry and probably go all "oh yes yes yes" (if the feeling is there of course)

[~*Yuki*~]

There's no divorce in where I live.

[Tyra from *NOL]

i never thought marriage as a necessity. if the person loves me, he'd still love me whether we're married or not. once again, i think marriage itself doesn't prove anything. To me it's signing a paper to make myself a Mrs.

[~*Yuki*~]

Originally Posted by Tyra from *NOL (View Post) i never thought marriage as a necessity. if the person loves me, he'd still love me whether we're married or not. once again, i think marriage itself doesn't prove anything. To me it's signing a paper to make myself a Mrs.

I come from a religious family.

[*~Sophia~*]

Nearing five months with my boyfriend, I'm just so in love and I'm finally not scared to feel this way! I'm just nervous about what going to university next year will do to our relationship, but I'm just going to have to enjoy the now and not think about then. I just wanted to come and gush about how in love I am. I never thought I'd fall for a best friend.

[barbeegurl00]

Originally Posted by Lemurian (View Post) That's what I was thinking as well. ............Someone IRL asked me an interesting romance question today. I was saying that I intended never to get into another relationship because my last one went about as bad as it possibly could go when my ex became supersonically evil. And the person I was talking to said, "Why is that any reason not to give the other guys in the world a chance to know you?" I never thought of it like that before.

Good advice, and it's true.

I think any of us who have been hurt have felt that way... That we just couldn't do it again. But you can. Everyone is different and should be given a clean slate, as hard as that is to do.

[J@NeY]

I used to be scared of marriage as a teenager, and never wanted to get hitched. But now i am 25 my veiws have changed and i embrace the idea. I am from a large catholic family who have always drummed into my head that marriage is important. I was like blah blah whatever. Now since i stopped being teenager drama queen Jenna, i cannot wait to get married and be a wife. I would put in 110% and divorce is what i am more scared of, i kind of think people give up way to easily in relationships today.

[AshleyInWonderland]

honestly, im 18 and the thought of marriage? it doesnt scare me at all. i want to get married some day and be happy, and as silly as it sounds since im only 18 i feel like i found the guy that i could be happy with. whether its him i marry or not i do want to get married one day
the funny thing is im with a guy who before we started to get serious would shun the topic of marriage, like me even talking about my sister's wedding! he hated talking about it! but now...when ever we walk by this bridal shop that always has a wedding gown in the window, in town he pulls me close and says i would look beautiful in it.

[Tyra from *NOL]

Originally Posted by barbeegurl00 (View Post) Good advice, and it's true. I think any of us who have been hurt have felt that way... That we just couldn't do it again. But you can. Everyone is different and should be given a clean slate, as hard as that is to do.

I'm an example. After Luke, I had my heart broken. I didn't want to be with anyone. When I least expect it, Eric came to my life. I'm so happy with him now.

[broken|smile]

With that I've learned not to take advantage of what I have. I treasure every kiss. every hug, every I love you because you never know what could happen tonight, tomorrow, next year.

I dont normally post here but I was lurking and I read this sentence Sarah and it actually brought tears to my eyes.

Ive been a bit weird lately we've had this amazing guy transfer from another city this year and we immdiately hit it off, I mean he's sweet and kind, a total gentelman, hes good looking and funny and we have soooo much in common, and then I heard from one of his classmates that he was pretty much in love before he transferred and he's probobly still with the girl.
I dont know what to do, he's giving me all these signs and he keeps texting me and like yesterday he had a ring (like a promise ring or something) on his ring finger but he would take it off everytime I went near him and laugh or put it on another finger and when I walked away it would be back on the ring finger, I dont know if he's leading me on or not but I cant help it I feel like Im falling for him.

And I know this was a very long rant but I have no one else to talk to, my best friend knows about the other girl and thinks he's still with her, she thinks Im stupid for even thinking about him.

[Uh Blah]

Originally Posted by Freaky Wednesday (View Post) I dont normally post here but I was lurking and I read this sentence Sarah and it actually brought tears to my eyes. Ive been a bit weird lately we've had this amazing guy transfer from another city this year and we immdiately hit it off, I mean he's sweet and kind, a total gentelman, hes good looking and funny and we have soooo much in common, and then I heard from one of his classmates that he was pretty much in love before he transferred and he's probobly still with the girl. I dont know what to do, he's giving me all these signs and he keeps texting me and like yesterday he had a ring (like a promise ring or something) on his ring finger but he would take it off everytime I went near him and laugh or put it on another finger and when I walked away it would be back on the ring finger, I dont know if he's leading me on or not but I cant help it I feel like Im falling for him. And I know this was a very long rant but I have no one else to talk to, my best friend knows about the other girl and thinks he's still with her, she thinks Im stupid for even thinking about him.

It certainly sounds like he IS with this other girl, but if you really wanna know just ask him. And that includes asking him about the ring if he says he's single.
I can tell you at the very least he's not this perfect person you have him out to be at the moment. Nobody is perfect! There's little quirks & such in ALL of us & it's simply a matter of determining whether those flaws/imperfections are something that we find cute or just downright annoying that is the key to compatibility.

[mad lil' duck]

Originally Posted by Freaky Wednesday (View Post) And I know this was a very long rant but I have no one else to talk to, my best friend knows about the other girl and thinks he's still with her, she thinks Im stupid for even thinking about him.

I would just ask him The ring-thing really makes it seem as if he tries to be single around you, but once you turn away he's taken...Sounds as if he's either leading you on or really is uncomfortable in wearing a ring on his finger strange behaviour...But then again some men are just strange He should just be honnest with you.