maxsgirl452

So I have a dilemma. I've known I've been atracted to women for a little while now but whenever I masterbate, I have to think about guys to get off. I mean what does that mean? Anyone know? Am I bi or what? I don't know.

Tonje says GO ELIZA

If you're still not attracted to men AT ALL in real life, I'd say you're gay. Don't worry about thoughts, they're only thoughts.. what matters is who you're attracted to. Don't rush it anyway, it'll become clearer to you as time passes. Just go with what feels right for you now.

~*Nikki*~

I agree with Tonje, you've got time to figure it out and it's best to just have fun with the whole thing while you're young.

Kace

I think the Shane Philosophy applies here. "Whether you're gay or straight, you just go with the flow."

~*Nikki*~

I agree, that's a good saying.

maxsgirl452

That is a good saying. Although my favorite is "liquor in the front, poker in the rear!"
I'm 16 so I figure I've got plenty of time left to figure out what's up with me. But, it's kinda hard to find a girlfriend when you live in a VERY conservitive town. I'll always have college

~*Nikki*~

Alot of people go through sexual idenity crisis' when they are teens and the fact that you are sixteen probably just means you are curious, I know I questioned things when I was younger, and still do at times, it's all part of growing up.

This is totally off topic, but I wanted to point out that your signature is somewhat crude to the nature of this site which is considered "Family friendly". You might want to consider changing it just a bit. I think it's best that I say something instead of somebody reading it and squealing all over about how it offended them to the higher ups and you get PMed or something. If you've got any questions, just PM me, I'd be glad to answer them.

Firefly17

Ok, so newbie at this board but I've loved the L Word since it started. Anyway, when I was first coming out of my denial two years ago, I was really confused, because I thought guys were cute, but what really helped me figure it out was I would watch people, without being obvious (or trying not to, lol.) and I would look at the guys, and then I would look at the girls, and I always had more of a "wow, she's hot." reaction with girls. When I looked at the guys, I'd just be like, "yeah, he's cute." but I never got the "wow" reaction as I did with the girls. Anyway, don't know why I'm sharing....it's like, 1 am, I tend to ramble this late at night.

maxsgirl452

I tend to do that too. Like there's this girl in my choir class and the first time I saw her I was like. "Holy ****! My god she is hot!" I never do that with guys anymore.

Oh, and I will change my quote. Thanks for the warning!

KISSES!

~*katinthehat*~

oh sweetie it's so hard. I'm personally bisexual. I love both men and women. I'm 16 also and i just had to come to terms with it. I find both men and women so attractive. Sometimes i'm more attracted to men over women. Sometimes all i think about are women . It makes me so less attracted to both. People think it's a joke, bisexuality. I embrace it. You can only figure out what you are. PM to chat.

love,
kat

~*Nikki*~

Aww you guys are so great with the stories and such, it's very comforting to hear things.

Firefly17, you should stick around, we love newbies!

maxsgirl452(is there anything else I could call you?), thanks for changing the sig line, I hope I didn't make you mad or anything, just trying to keep the gang in line around here, lol.

Kace

We're one big happy psychotic family.

~*Nikki*~

Isn't it sweet?

Firefly17

Aww...I feel special, thanks! I'm just crossing my fingers my mom keeps showtime for a few more months..she's been thinking of cancelling it, and I can't afford to pay for it... *hopes and prays*

~*Nikki*~

I wish mine would get Showtime, but there's nothing on there that they watch, although we have HBO and don't really watch anything on there.