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Old 07-13-2014, 02:33 PM
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Sorry for all the losses everyone has gone through.

I've been through a string of family deaths the last ten years.

My uncle died from cirrhosis of the liver in 2004. My cousin died from HIV/AIDS complications in 2006 at the age of 38 (Have no idea if her boyfriend knew he had HIV nor do I know if he's alive.) My grandfather died from diabetes in 2009. Another uncle died a few days after Thanksgiving over a year ago from a heart attack which might been brought on by the fact he had issues with his weight.
I'm so terribly sorry bless you.
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Old 07-13-2014, 03:48 PM
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Sorry for all the losses everyone has gone through.

I've been through a string of family deaths the last ten years.

My uncle died from cirrhosis of the liver in 2004. My cousin died from HIV/AIDS complications in 2006 at the age of 38 (Have no idea if her boyfriend knew he had HIV nor do I know if he's alive.) My grandfather died from diabetes in 2009. Another uncle died a few days after Thanksgiving over a year ago from a heart attack which might been brought on by the fact he had issues with his weight.
Wow, sorry to hear that.. Couldn't imagine that happen..
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Aww thanks guys.
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Old 07-13-2014, 06:22 PM
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I think the idea of this board is a very good idea. I was feeling down today and it helped to know I wasn't alone.

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I've been in a funk all day missing my grandmother. she was the one you always called when you needed a instant pick me up. I found myself reaching for the phone today....she passed away 6 years ago...
I'm sorry for your loss. My grandmother has been gone 10 years now. I very much miss talking to her. I too called her when I was down or needed advice.

I had a friend that I used to talk with that helped me feel better and offer advice. But he has been gone 3 years this month.
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Old 07-13-2014, 07:16 PM
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Aw, Ann. So sorry to hear about your losses.
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Old 07-13-2014, 07:46 PM
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I think the idea of this board is a very good idea. I was feeling down today and it helped to know I wasn't alone.
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I'm glad you found us! So sorry for your loss, know that we are here if you ever just wanna talk or share memories
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Old 07-23-2014, 09:14 PM
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Anyone ever breakdown crying while taking a long hot shower?. ...something calmingly therapeutic about that. It's been a hell of day for sure.
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Old 07-23-2014, 09:33 PM
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Oh yeah, Kali. I've done it too many times to count.
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Old 07-23-2014, 10:20 PM
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I wonder why it's easier to cry in the shower like that.

it feels odd, i feel like I'm guilty for trying to distract myself by being here right now.
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Old 07-23-2014, 11:08 PM
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Aw. Don't feel guilty.
You need to find some way to grieve - and this is another outlet.
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Children really do ask tough questions don't they. I know you're supposed to answer them truthfully and with the most simple of explanations but damn it's hard!


You're right Tina, I'm thinking the guilt feeling is me being here and she's not. healthy vs. not healthy ...
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Aw You can't think that either.
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Old 07-24-2014, 07:07 PM
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As a nurse in the hospital setting and working with patients and families whose loved one had died, I have had to deal with all ages. I worked mostly with the elderly and children 3 months to 21 years old. With all kinds of cancer, end stage cystic fibrosis, muscular dystrophy, and other things they died from.

Took care of my own father when his cancer came back after a 7 year remission. From early November 2002 to December 27th, 2002, My dad had two brain surgeries...subdural hematomas on the left side and a month later on the right. After the second one they discovered cancer was through out the membrane of his brain, at the base of the skull, throughout his bones and lymph nodes. He was in and out of consciousness for a few weeks. He was put on an oral ventilator. On Christmas Day, he was alert. We and cousins and aunts and uncles all took turns visiting with him and gave him a chance to write down his answers. On the 26th he was unconscious again. His vital signs really dropped and we were asked when we wanted hospice to start. On the 27th the ventilator and tube feeding was stopped per my dad's request.
The immediate family and my dad's younger sister and husband were around the bed.
I suggested to everyone to share whatever they want with dad before he died. I had already when I was in the room by myself. My dad began to breathe the strange "death rattle" type of breathing. I explained it to everyone and told them the range it normally lasts. Fortunately my dad's was at the shortest time. I thanked God for that. He died with a smile on his face and with a "glow"/"radiant" look on his face.
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Karen, as I've said from day one, it takes a special person to do the kind of job you did. I don't think nurses get enough credit for their amazingness.




Yesterday I lost one of my closest friends. It was sudden and unexpected. she was 29, a mother of two amazing little kids, wonderful wife and amazing friend. We always called her Wonder Woman. She could do it all with one arm tied behind her back while wearing a blindfold. She was healthy, vibrant, a bundle of non stop energy. I had talked to her a few hours before she passed. She had laid down on the couch for a bit of a rest and never woke up. You just never know...

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Grace, is that your name? That must be so hard losing a friend like this.
Love the song you shared. Very sad and inspirational at the same time. Thanks for sharing it with us.
Many hugs for you. There will be quite a different kind of grieving pattern for you most likely. Usually happens when there is a sudden unexpected loss like your friend. Will be hard for her family too. will keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers.
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