I am still not decided how I feel about this. I have been cheated on, but it was one of these cases where the person cheated on me, tried with someone else for a while (never asked for how long) and then broke up with me. I had no issues with the cheating. Till that day I do not feel bad about him cheating. I respect the fact that he was honest with me and at that point I was also not sure whether I wanted to be with him. I guess we both knew that we are not for each other, but were not brave enough to break it off. In the end I was thankful that he did it.

The relationship was toxic for both of us. I tried to break up with him numerous times, but he would get depressed, threaten with suicide and stuff and it was just not healthy at all.

On the other hand I believe that we meet people for different reasons in our life. And we could have special connection with people without being actually together romantically. In that sense we could be married to someone and not have the deep connection we have with someone else. Is this emotional cheating or not?

I still have not explored this spiritual aspect of my life and soul to be able to decide how I feel about cheating.



True and honestly even if the kid was old enough this is not a good reason. If the kid is old enough, they would pick up the issues parents have. I know a woman that cheated on her husband numerous times and her daughter was at some point decoy. It destroyed the relationship they had. They divorced in the end, but the daughter is still closer to her dad then her mother. She is even closer with her stepmother and stepbrother on her father's side than on her mother's side.

I was able to pick up the issues between my parents when I was still 5/6 years old. I would go to my mom and tell her that if she wants to get divorce I would support them. I did not want to watch them arguing all the time. And this does not mean that I do not love my father. I do and I have close relationship with him too. I love them both individually, but when I was younger them together was more annoying than anything else.



On the other hand though I wonder how his wife did not realize this. How absentminded have to be to not catch your husband with a co-worker of you both?