I honestly feel at this point that this is a very sore and touchy discussion that should be left alone
You have
VERY STRONG OPINION and yes you are entitled to have such personal opinion
BUT both child are not main enough of characters to get all out of bent over. We just knew of
Sara's birth and occassional appearance - I feel what
The Flash - 3x22 did of haying Lyla angry at first with Barry on refusing to provide help due to it should be enough. We do not see either child or have mention of them to continue to have this discussion.
agree to disagree cycle that would just continue to go on forever to not being resolved - so I feel this is a discussion that should just be left alone and we should just focus on
John & Lyla without mention of children until old enough to become part of storyline