I get that feeling too. Like it's being painted as after everything they've been through how do they
not understand where Mary is coming from.
When it should be, after everything all they've been through how do they make excuses for her? They've sold their souls for each other and she can't be bothered to be in the same room. Hell even John sold his soul! JOHN! ....I honestly never thought I'd see the day John was the better parent.