To me, it is all for fun. Isn't that what entertainment is supposed to be? For fun? I think people take things too seriously.
I don't mind the crackships of Julian/Barry and Captain Cold/Barry. That's the beauty of individuality. We are free to ship whomever we want.
It always intrigues me with what the fandom comes up with actually. Amusing to me.
How is Captain Cold and Barry creepy and annoying? That comment can be taken the wrong way. I am a fan of many gay/lesbian couples on TV and it doesn't make one character 'feminine' or 'masculine' because of who they love.