I was so confused when I was 25-30, cause I used to go to a church group for young singles (ages 19-31) in order to socialize with people my age range. Most of the girls in the group were still doing college. When I joined up, I had already graduated college, went on a missionary trip (which was unusual for girls to do so) and I was probably the only girl in the group at that point who had a real post-college job - my job in prison - and my own (new) car, making more money then the majority of the girls. - And to go to the level of a horny male, I had.. um... boobage of unusual size too .. hello? To sound sexist, I should have gotten instant dates just for owning those knockers, haha But guess who was getting all the dates and marriage proposals. On paper, i looked like a good prospect, what I'd accomplished by 25... but I think, appearing to be capable of supporting myself and holding my own in prison, made me look too intimidating or tough? ...I remember I used to wear a professional Scully-like skirt, blazer, business woman type dress to church compared to the other girls who wore flowery girly dresses too, I definitely had my own opinions too, not being a crowd follower, Men want to be the "alpha" person ?