hmmmm,should be unlocked now...

go to you user CP (left black button, orange text)

the options down the left, one is something like general settings, scroll down and there are some tick boxes for PMs, ensure they are enabled, and there is one box about "only allow mods to PM me" or something that i had to untick


hope it works

*i am keeping in the ignorance is bliss, in my world, emma is thinking about thelma and louise, no graffitti, no stuuuuupid ronnie*