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~Unfaithful~ · 10-01-2008, 07:41 AM

Thanks everyone. I don't have a lot of experience per se, since my husband was only my 3rd boyfriend since 4th grade

but we've been through a lot. And I wouldn't have married me, or at least the me I was in high school/ until I had my first child.

It's true what they say about how having children changes you. We used to fight so bad that we would get the cops called on us. I tried to control everything he did all the time, and I would do stupid things when I couldn't. I blew up the engine in my car by revving the motor when we were fighting one time. I threw a fit because he wanted to go to Georgia to visit his dying uncle for a weekend and there could be girls down there. I was essentially the bad girlfriend.

But now, I am a great wife. He has allowed me to stay home and take care of our 2 kids. I baby-sit while they are in school to make a little bit of money. He works 3rd shift and is looking for a day job as well because he knows that I have people anxiety at work and it makes me miserable. He is great. All of my friends said if they could find someone like my husband they would marry him. So I am lucky.

With that I've learned not to take advantage of what I have. I treasure every kiss. every hug, every I love you because you never know what could happen tonight, tomorrow, next year. And I came from divorced parents who should NEVER have married, who dragged me into the middle of their crappy life, and I vowed I would never do that to my kids. I would give them "normal" parents who love each other.

My friends say they hope when they get married they are still lovey-dovey 5 years in and still kiss and stuff.