| Again, absolutely.
But if the father's nowhere to be found, if it was a one-night stand, if the relationship ended and the guy disappeared... Beyond a normal search for the paternal unit... we can't honestly expect a woman/girl who wants to put her child up for adoption to wait around for the father to give sign of life.
If the guy isn't around in the months leading up to the birth or, as you so aptly put it yourself, if he's anything that falls under the heading of "psycho," then I don't see why he absolutely must be involved in that decision.
Sure, when the dad finds out years later that he had a kid, he might feel some regret. And I'm not trying to diminish that very real reality. But you can't expect a woman who doesn't want to be a mother (or who can't be a mother for whatever reason) to hang on to a child until such a time as the dad comes back into their lives (assuming he ever does) on the off chance that he might want to be involed. __________________  Sunny
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