| Well said. I totally agree.
Ideally, yeah, both parents would share equally in any and all decision-making that goes on with any child created and born into this world.
Sometimes the mother isn't fit, for whatever reason, to take care of the child; sometimes the father is willing and able to do so. Sometimes the father isn't around, isn't interested, isn't known to the mother.
We can only do the best we can with what we're given.
I'm always hesitant to advocate for absolute laws, because the application is way too open for problems and dilemmas. Ideally, a father should be able to prevent his child's adoption by a third party if he wanted to. But what do you do when the father wasn't around (couldn't be reached, wasn't aware of the circumstances, etc.) at the crucial moment? What do you do when the father is far less suitable than a third party willing and able to adopt?
Obviously, many worthy fathers get the short end of the stick when it comes to custody battles. And that should absolutely be remedied. No questions about that.
But writing laws where a father can come in after the fact, like some sort of cockeyed deus ex machina, and put a stop to an otherwise perfectly fine process... is abhorrent to me.
So, to me, a case-by-case approach would be best. __________________  Sunny
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